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JANE GOE accidentally left Little Goe’s shoe in my car after dropping him for a weekly supervised visit with Dad. I get the privilege of helping facilitate these exchanges. In the past, these exchanges were filled with hostility, conflict & stress. leaving everyone frazzled and upset (the smoke before the fire). Having a neutral third party present helps ensure everyone behaves & noone leaves the exchange with anything other than happy memories with Little Goe. WANNA HELP? Offer to facilitate the Jane/John Goes in your life during these exchanges! Keeping the peace is a key component in ending domestic chaos. #ckret #janegoe #littlegoe #johngoe #help (at CKRET Foundation) https://www.instagram.com/p/CU2w9jGAd6X/?utm_medium=tumblr

John Goe Alert! I spent the afternoon listening to this 21 year old trying to make sense of childhood trauma and how it applies into his adult relationship chaos. I shared words of wisdom and gave a lot of love and encouragement. A lot of times victims are groomed from childhood and don’t even realize they are continuing the cycle of abuse into their adults years - labeling “love” to something that would label led abuse. Stopping the cycle STARTS with creating awareness. With a little patinece and a lot of deep conversations - the insanity cycle WILL identify itself and the door for breaking the cycle will be opened. It takes time, it moves slow - but so does worththing worthwhile - and HE’S worth it! John Goe is well on his way to a better future that honor his greatness.❤️ If you know someone jumping in and out of abusive or hurtful relationships - love them connect them to resources (I have a handfuls) that will help guide them to understanding where their true power exist. There is ALWAYS smoke before a fire - don’t wait for it to catch fire to talk about it. This could be someone you know, work with or love. Domestic violence impacts everyone - yet no one talks about it. SLOW down to listen, care & connect. Together we can end the cycle of insanity. #ckret #janegoe #johngoe #stopthecycle #love (at CKRET Foundation) https://www.instagram.com/p/CUJQf2ODbiu/?utm_medium=tumblr

DID YOU KNOW? EVERY sale/purchase through Char Klisares Real Estate help local domestic violence victim assisted through the CKRET Foundation! If you know someone looking for real estate help - CALL ME! I’m a Circle of Excellence agent (Top 5%) and have tools, resources & wisdom that will give clients a leading edge in this competitive market! #sold If you know someone needing help navigating domestic chaos - CALL ME. I have resources, knowledge & light to help guide through the dark times. #ckret #janegoe With your help & working together - we can change the world! #callchar (at Char Klisares Real Estate) https://www.instagram.com/p/CTwoaEdLhak/?utm_medium=tumblr

I met this Jane Goe at the Des Moines P.D. after her abuser spent the last week terrorizing, making death threats (against her and himself) trashed their home & then when he realized she was actually leaving for good - he went down & filed for a Civil No Contact Order (NCO) - and got it! SYSTEMIC ABUSE: when a resource that’s designed to protect a domestic violence victim, gets used to abuse or becomes a punishment for leaving. This can includes police departments, church, doctors, media or schools. It’s an even mixture of Emotional, Psychological and Financial abuse - all in one. The hardest part of this type of abuse is having the actual TRUTH heard or even known. (My personal story is a GREAT example of this). This Jane Goe is VERY lucky to have a plethora of calls to the police department over the past week & other photos/videos/text documenting the chaos. Her therapist connected her to the CKRET Foundation to advocate, educate and guide her as she navigates court for the NCO hearing next week. SHE’S BREAKING THE CYCLE - it’s scary, messy and full of unknown moments. She’s no longer alone - she joining a community or others who have left BEFORE they became a Jane Doe statistic! I’m so proud of her! Pray for her as she creates her new normal. If you find yourself or someone you love a victim of systemic abuse - reach out for help. DOCUMENT YOUR TRUTH and know you’re NOT either! #ckret #janegoe #systemicabuse #help #callchar (at CKRET Foundation) https://www.instagram.com/p/CTlbISHD7Eq/?utm_medium=tumblr

Sometimes a Jane Goe needs someone to listen. Allow them a compassionate ear, positive encouragement and clarity of direction. Fill this space with NO attachment to the outcome and NO judgement. I KNOW believing in someone creates a POWERFUL motivator towards a better future. This beautiful soul has an amazing story and gifts the world desperate needs. The front row seat of watching someone bloom - is a gift. Try it - share the success! Together we can cure domestic violence. #janegoe #ckret (at CKRET Foundation) https://www.instagram.com/p/CSt1HtyAG7w/?utm_medium=tumblr

JANE GOE ALERT: Little flip flops are the reason why I help Jane Goe when she has a court hearing involving her abuser. I’m happy to see/share with advanced notice these events can typically be arranged to happen remotely so Jane Goe doesn’t have to stand face to face in the same space. (**of course each case is different and ask your attorney.) Don’t let a friend or love one go into these situations alone. There are domestic violence advocates (like me) who can help (for free). This could be your loved one (with little flip flops) creating the space for the conversations is where the domestic violence cure starts. Let me know if I can ever help - it’s brings purpose to a lot of senselessness in my life. #janegoe #ckret (at CKRET Foundation) https://www.instagram.com/p/CRJlOfBDdYD/?utm_medium=tumblr

JANE GOE ALERT! This Jane Goe is fleeing from a 3 year relationship filled with horrible physical, mental, emotional and sexual abuse. He’s broken her arm (she told people “I fell down the stairs”) he broke her finger (she told people “I fell on the ice”) she was even hospitalized after a recent beating. Afterward she fled to her parents house (in a different county) and was told she needed to go back to the county the assault happened to file charges. Before she was healed enough to file - they entered the “honeymoon” period and got back together. The abuse cycle is heavily exhausting, lonely and isolating. It’s the definition of insanity. After this last argument Jane Goe found herself sleeping in her car for 2 COLD days - not wanting people to know the truth. Friends & family members had lost hope anything would change. She desperately reached out to a high school friend who’s a realtor., who connected her to the CKRET Foundation. I spent numerous hour talking with this weekend and helping her navigate the resources and options that will protect her. I’m happy to share her request for protections was issued and this Jane Goe is on her way to finding a new normal that hopefully doesn’t involve any abuse. (I can only pray). While a piece of paper does NOT provide personal protection (it not all encompassing level of protection) it’s just a piece of paper - IT IS a start. Remember we are ALL in this together - this could be your sister, daughter, aunt, mother, nieces or nephews or female friend. Domestic chaos impacts EVERYONE. It doesn't discriminate and doesn’t stop because of a pandemic, holiday or work. If you know someone experiencing domestic chaos - listen, love and then lead them to resources that can help. You can also help by sharing this post - it was someone like YOU who connected her with me. #janegoe #ckret https://www.instagram.com/p/CGlBhFdjys1/?igshid=1xkhm0xxkafbq