#izzyovercoffee

<3 I love you too! 

that also makes me wonder how terrifying it might be to non-force users in a relationship with a force-user for the first time. what kind of feedback, or experiencing connections they've never felt before? it seems potentially terrifying, but also deeply sad---bc if it doesn't work out, another relationship with a non-force user would lack that extra dimension

I mean, even with Darman and Etain, we see Etain doing things like reaching into the Force to check up on him “across star systems” and him feeling every time like she’s in the room looking at him.

Which, I mean, it works out for them and he takes it as her version of affection and absolutely neither of them have any sense of normalcy anyway. We as the reader see Etain struggle with but choosing to respect Dar’s boundries post initial thing with the baby, so we’re not necessarily freaked out.

but in other contexts, with a non-Force-user who’s a bit more... average? Possibly has some failed or toxic relationships? The idea that your partner could sense your mind or presence or what have you from very long distances, whether you are wanting contact with them at not has to... be a trip.

(I’m sorry that’s almost a side rant, but it just occurred to me reading your comment.)

Or, like you said, becoming used to a partner who can read and anticipate you on a very deep level and then... your own unfair disappointment when your next partner doesn’t/can’t. Or being exhausted in said Force-using relationship because sometimes you just want to feel things privately and not have to discuss it.

can I throw fuel on this fire I am super curious

I’m fired up about a lot of it right now, but mostly how so many people miss the fact that redemption arcs are just about a character who was a villain choosing to do better.  That’s it!  That’s the beauty of exploring morality in fiction, is knowing that all these characters (like us) are making moral choices all the time, and they can choose to move around on the scale.  A lot of villains shouldn’t, writing-wise, because we do need some fine villains in our stories; but all of them could.

Instead people want to insist that a redemption journey absolutely requires

that the villain dies

that the heroes forgive and befriend the ex-villain

that the villain Suffers for their Crimes in measure or with some extra Suffer

I’ll admit this one can be a nice touch

but it worries me in a general fashion when people say it because I can never tell if they feel the same way about real people who mess up

that the particular viewer/reader personally forgives and likes them??

that, and this drives me nuts, the villain wasn’t that bad to begin with

I see people talking about Finn’s redemption journey and I go absolutely feral because Finn never did anything wrong to begin with, that’s not a redemption journey

send me a present emoji 🎁 and i’ll respond with a random out of context image i have on my computer

do you have a fandom in particular you're feeling?

hey, I’m sorry in advance if you’ve done this already and it didn’t help, but in case you didn’t, a lot of schools hold copies of vaccination records for at least 5-7 years (some for ten, depending), maybe a previous school has a copy and you can ask them? also your local health department or w/e equivalent may have records if they keep a centralized system (this is a long shot depending on where you are)

yeah that’s probably what I’ll have to do.