I wanted to reply to the comments individually but I felt like I’d be disjointed about it and maybe some people don’t want their comment on one post blasted to 30K people on another post, so in a general sense... 

I know there are different modalities to therapy -- I have no idea what mine were but I doubt it matters since it was twenty-five years ago and I was a child. Part of the problem is that the modalities which are clear-cut in theory seem unhelpfully loose in practice. I’ll look through a directory of therapists and a half-dozen will give different modalities from each other but talk about the same handful of therapeutic techniques, or address the same family of issues, or both. And most of the modalities both in the clinical and practical sense seem extremely unpleasant, so that is perhaps a Me Problem. 

I end up asking myself, “What’s my goal in doing this?” and I picture myself sitting down with a therapist who asks what I’m looking to address, because that would help narrow down my options. But I never have a good answer. So I think, “That seems like an hour a week that could be spent doing something less expensive” and close out of the search window. Then a few weeks later I think “Well, that might be useful, I’ll look around” and the cycle starts again. 

There are so many good uses for therapy, but a lot of what people say they use therapy for, I've done on my own for years, or am working on now and don’t feel like I need help. I don’t really have any problems identifying therapists who aren’t going to work for me for one reason or another, but it’s an issue if I can only tell a therapist what I don’t want to do. Saying “I’m not interested in doing roleplays” is fine as boundary-setting but if I can’t say “Because I want to accomplish this different thing” then all I’m doing is insulting someone’s profession, really. 

So what’s left? Just the vague sense that other people I like and admire find it useful, and my experiences were very much outlier, so maybe I should try it again. But if I can’t identify why I should try it again, and if I’m going to be aggressively combative about it (which...I don’t want to be but I do know me) then all I’m really doing is paying someone to be insulted by me for an hour, and I can do that to people who deserve it more, for free, on the internet. 

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The thing with therapy, speaking as someone who was a counselor for a period of years, is that it is a tool that supposes a baseline function. Going to Therapy when you have ADHD is very similar to being handed a hammer and told to use it when you have no arms.  

I did want to respond to this comment specifically because a) that’s very validating and b) it means that if I do want to continue looking I guess a good place to start would be asking my meds psych, because he at least deals with adults with ADHD on the reg and can be like “Well, first we gotta get you some robot arms.” 

I just like the idea of having robot arms, really. The hammer’s a bonus! 

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64: Do they value mercy or justice more

Historically it kind of depends on how pissed they are? We did a battle royale in which our group and our dm's other parallel group played against each other, and brie's unwillingness to finish off the opposing players caused Some Problems, but at the same time they have absolutely murdered some people when they felt it was deserved (kidnapping and enslaving a baby dragon, for example). So I guess the answer is "depends what the bastard did" lmao

58: What do they think their role in the party is? What is their role in actuality?

I think they're someone who consistently feels the need to prove themselves as part of the group because they fear that they're obsolete or useless because of their lack of magic, so they basically try to be as many things as possible - combat-ready, a good lookout, a good strategist, etc. In actuality I think they're most notable as being a bit of a party parent despite being the youngest lol, just because they tend to be the voice of reason in the group, and they also tend to be the one who communicates for the group a lot of the time, but that's kind of coming from a meta element where I'm more inclined towards rp than most of the other party members (who mostly prefer combat etc)

7: Which party member do they understand the least?

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I actually have a couple of fics already where they interact:

in love and war (includes chelsea)

gentler waters (this one fits into the unkindest tide, and the first part is quentin & gillian, with gillian being kind of a brat)

Yeah my hope of hopes is she goes to crash with October because she doesn't know where else to go, and Toby has to deal with that headache. And then bonding!

I'm pretty sure she's gotta go underseas, it'll at least make Amandine pause before going all creepy stalker on her.

2. You know the Faerie Queen is holding her ball at dawn. What dress do you wear to seduce her?

I think there are some fundamental misunderstandings here about the way I’d approach such an event. Like, my self-preservation is Not Great, but I do not want to be an equal volume of spiders. Seducing the Faerie Queen is Not Even A Little Safe.

And then there are other political questions. Like one of the designs I’d be thinking about involves armor, but if we’re assuming the armor is steel, which has iron in it, wouldn’t that be offensive to wear in the Faerie Queen’s court?

That said, if the question is just “What awesome thing would you wear to look cool?”