#it'salright

Why do I think change is inevitable, and it's alright. 

Sometimes we come across those people who say "Never change for anyone! Don't let these ideas infiltrate your head! You're beautiful being just yourself", and let me tell how all of this is true. But people forget to tell us "It's alright to want to change or to see what others have to say about you. It's inevitable". 

Change is inevitable, and it's alright to change. Even if it's just because you heard someone saying that this quality of yours may not be the one they like, or it makes you not as interesting. I have listened to opinions about me, I did whoever once wanted to change immediately to someone I was not, and this is what is wrong about us listening to others: instant change is never a solution. 

Each of us human beings carry a certain "vibe". We all have different aspects, and this is what makes us different from each other. May be our laugh, our sense of humor, our imperfections, and our perfections. But even though, I have never met someone "perfect", someone that never saw something that they needed to change, or someone who's imperfection were blinded to society. 

But why is it alright to change? We all go through changes in life, it may be that tomorrow you decide to start listening to a new band, or try other colors as nail polish, or you try new clothes that probably was a style you never wore before. And it's alright to change, even if it's because you heard someone saying that you should change something about yourself: these opinions make you a stronger being, and maybe, just maybe, they might be right. Me, I'm very bossy myself, and people talk about it: "Victoria stop being so bossy" "Victoria is so bossy it makes me tired". I hear you people, and I take into consideration. Being bossy is a part of me, and part of me that I can make it for a good cause. Someone once told me there are two types of bossy: The good one and the bad one. 

Good bossy: the one that sets examples, that person that people will go to give opinion's, not the one that sets an opinion and that is done. 

Bad bossy: the one that tells people what to do, the one that only his/her opinion matter. 

To be honest, i'm a bit of both, i'm a work in progress. But why share this? Because well, maybe your change can also have two sides. Maybe you interpret the part of yourself that everyone wants to change more as an imperfection, but hey! They don't want you to completely change, or otherwise they wouldn't be talking about you. They want you to equilibrate the bad and the good. Equilibrium is everything in life and one thing I learned from wanting to change was: I never wanted to change for the worse, but for the better, and people also say things because they want to see better. 

BUT, before taking any actions there are a few steps worth remembering when wanting to make a change on yourself or your life: 

Are you doing this because you also think you should be doing something better?

Is the change going to affect only you or others around you? 

Is the change for the better or for the worse?

Have you thought about it before or just after people started telling you? 

Do you think you should change, or is this just a waste of time because that's who you are? 

I know you, reading this post, will be answering these questions wisely. If any of them seem to prove this change is inevitable and worth it, go for it! 

If any of the answers seem odd, and makes this change just a waste of time, and something society has created to make yourself more "like everyone else", then don't change. 

Change is inevitable, but we have to be willing to, and we have to respect our ideas of how ourselves are differently perfect. Do wise changes only. 

But never forget: Don't you dare to lose your "vibe" of who you are. Especially for others. 

I hope I helped some of you today,