I don’t have to prove anything to my children. They already love me. They forgive me when I’m grumpy, when I yell, or get distracted.
Iris Chen’s groundbreaking book, Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent, sealed my commitment to parenting my children differently to how I was parented. Iris Chen is an Asian mother, and like me, does not have white privilege shared by many other peaceful parenting advocates. Instead, we have generations of ancestral trauma, as well as resilience, from a combination of factors like systemic racism, colonialism and the model minority myth. I devoured Iris Chen’s book and loved everything about it, from rethinking what success means, to teaching bodily autonomy and being actively antiracist so our kids will be too.
