#intp posts

in public: that resting bitch face and aura that makes them too scary to talk to

A Conversation with bffENFP

ENFP: omg i made this collage of what i want my wedding to be

ENFP: *sends me this*

INTP: ..oh ..wow

ENFP: you should do one too c:

*not 30 seconds later*

INTP:

i just wanna talk about my experience with ENFPs, specifically my best friend ENFP. i mostly decided to do this because they are in a rough spot and it made me think about how much i truly cherish our friendship.

i don’t know if my experience with my ENFP will be the same as anyone else's, but i’ve noticed INTPxENFP friendships are very common. i will also talk about what i do when my ENFP is having rough day or week or month(so for us emotionless, don’t know what to do in emotional situations because ENFPs cry over literally everything, INTPs.. you can read that part and see if it helps.)

soooooo i have been going to school with ENFP as long as i can remember, but honestly we were never friends. we never really talked to each other, and now ENFP told me that was because i’m a person who changes how they act according to the people i’m around(a pretty INTP trait in my opinion) but we were always aware of each other. that probably sounds weird, but even before we were friends we lowkey knew we had similar problems(honestly teen angst problems, not like the seriously deep childhood life long mentally scaring problems that we also share lolol). and i think it’s funny because after we became hella close we had a late night early morning convo in my kitchen and realized just how similar our experiences were and we admitted that we secretly checked on each other to make sure we were okay before we became friends(lol cheap af i know)

then about a year ago... not even.. we became friends about 10 months ago. and in that time we have become a force to be reckoned with. all because we had the same art class together and bonded over kpop. now this was an important moment that is when i deemed ENFP to be a worthy friend. ENFP has the most crazy and amazing dedication to kpop, and as an INTP who picks something and obsesses over it til they die this was how i knew that this ENFP was worthy of friendship. and from their the most beautiful friendship blossomed.

and i pride myself in being an amazing INTP(lol) because i try really hard for ENFP. and ENFP told me that they decided they like really wanted to be friends with me, like close friends, because i made an effort and made it clear that i wanted to hangout with them and enjoyed hanging out with them, because no one had legitimately enjoyed their company(especially my ENFP :c her old friends basically duffed her and it was an ass move, my ENFP is beautiful)

one of the most amazing things that i love about ENFP is that all our interests are the same, and that makes it really easy to keep a conversation. and ENFP is good, ENFP is always up to date on the latest news in kpop and watches all the vlives(and all those good technical terms) so they are always there to hold a conversation about interesting things. and we dive into different groups together. so when we find a new group we sit on the couch all day until we listen to all their songs, learn names to faces, the ships, our biases ect. ect. and it is great to just have ENFP their to share interests with and be just as crazy as me.

which leads to another amazing thing about my ENFP, they bring out the best in me. and i feel like this is something where i feel different from other INTPs, because even though i am an INTP-T i feel that i act rather extroverted. this is mostly because i have no pride and i just don’t care, but ENFP really brings that out in me and makes me a confident enough person. 

now onto the important part how i handle ENFP when they are in a rough spot because like everyone else we have our bad days. and sometimes ENFP has a lot of bad days. and it can be hard because i feel that ENFPs are the most introverted of extroverts honestly. and because of this, when ENFP has a bad day they won’t say anything. it is just readable that ENFP is having a bad, and honestly there isn’t much you can do about it.

if it is something really minor, like they just woke up on the wrong side of the bed, i honestly just don’t talk to ENFP. ENFP likes to handle things on their own, and i think that they’re just processing things and having an all day rant in their head, and that’s fine. they need that. and if you try to talk to them they’re just gonna stare at you, and they might nod at everything you say but really everything is going in one ear and out the other. this is were ENFP just needs time and time is really the only thing that is gonna fix it.

if things are a little more serious and ENFPs favorite tv show ended, their favorite character dies, an emotional song plays or anything like that and they just ball their eyes out. this is when i console ENFP, i don’t usually say anything, and if i ask ENFP they will say no so i just have to do it without asking(that’s the hardest part). i will get tissues or make ramen or my ENFPs favorite is holding my hand until they pass out on the couch from crying.. yeah things like that.

if things are really serious, like a close family member died OR THEY COME TO YOU(very important) THIS IS WHEN YOU LAY DOWN YOUR LIFE FOR YOUR ENFP. YOU BETTER TELL THEM THAT YOU WILL CROSS RIVERS AND CLIMB MOUNTAINS TO BE WITH THEM TO MAKE SURE THEY ARE OKAY UNTIL THEY ARE LAUGHING THROUGH THEIR TEARS because this is when ENFP is doubting themselves. AND WHEN AN ENFP COMES TO YOU that is when shit is real! when ENFP doesn’t want to tell you what is wrong, and they are sorry that they “haven’t been themselves lately” THAT IS WHEN SHIT IS SO REAL and ENFP needs to be reassured. i don’t care if you are piss angry at them or going through a hard time yourself, cuz really INTPs we are tough ass bitches and we can handle ourselves, BUT ENFP NEEDS US. and in this moment ENFP needs to be reassured. ENFP NEEDS TO BE REASSURED!! i don’t know what is going through their head, but i assume the worst. ENFP is doubting themselves, and if they are coming to you they want to be reassured that no matter what you will always be their friend! they need to be told that they are important! they need to be told that you couldn’t live a day on this earth without them and WHY they are so important that you need them. they need to know that you would literally do anything to be at their doorstep with whatever they needed, food, movies, or just someone to hug them and IF THEY ASK YOU TO THEN YOU BETTER ALREADY BE ON YOUR WAY. if you can’t. call them. a phone call or face timing is also good. because if they ask you to that means that they need you, they need someone to occupy them and comfort them AND THAT IS IMPORTANT!!

I'm stuck in this loop of making everthing:

beautifully tragic

or

hilariously studpid

It has finally happened. I never thought it would, but it did.

I see posts all the time that are like mind of an INTP:

XXXX: Hi!

INTP: hello.

XXXX: How are you?

INTP: *buffering*

and I was always like lol that’s just a stereotype, I work with people all the time and hold simple conversations all day. no. i was in the mickey d’s drive thru;

drive through lady: Hi.

INTP: hello.

drive through lady: how are you doing today?

INTP: *handing money to pay* uhh what?

Meet the INTP..

i don’t know what i planned going into this..

but yeah this is me.. i guess.. umm.. 

FAQ continued..(not necessarily things i get asked a lot on tumblr, but just in general)

no. my glasses are fake.. i am not harry potter(but i love the fandom dearly and know everything about hp lolol)

(I work in a clothing store)

ENFJ: *holds up sweater* this is $11.99..

ENFJ: I could knit this AND watching tv.

INTP: You knit?

ENFJ: Yea..

INTP: ...

INTP: I crochet.

I don’t understand why INTPs are stereotyped as being lazy..