Gen annoying how much people still fully believe online queer discourse is completely accurate to reality. It's not. If you close your webpage and go read a book writen by a trans person or honestly just go talk to a trans woman irl at all you'll realize that.
Like is so clear so many people are used to be the only queer person around - and this is fine we are an isolated group - and have never actually spoke to a second trans person or saw their day to day struggles outside of Twitter. So many petty fights are things that fully don't matter when you touch grass.
I swear to god it's so rare to see primary online discourse actually point to something. Instead you will find the most out of touch stupid fucking thing. Most of the time the thing will be just completely inaccurate (often involving pretending trans man don't exist or don't participate in moviments they do); the most transmisoginistic point to ever be made (there's no clear example because on general is just different shades of "trans woman are all white and an opressive cabal that collectively hates and attacks all other members of the comunity I am an ally I swear") or just blatantly racist and or/xenophobic (the amount of "let's invalidate south america exclusive terms because they don't correspond to our reality" said by non south americans).
I know most people that really care about online activism (and online activism only cause if you talk about issues online than goes outside and does something significant you are excluded) are very young and often isolated and it is not fully their fault and more the fault of opressive systems stopping them from actually having outside contact with the comunity but as someone who was once an young, confused, "online activist", very little if anything at all of what you are doing matters very much and very little of the internal discourse is actually a part of real in person activism. One day you will actually be able to join comunities irl and when the day comes do not let random discourse stop you. Intergenerational local queer comunities are central to our fight for rights.
And look I don't even consider myself that much of an activist now. I try to make a change with academic research focusing on improving transgender specific healthcare but I still feel there is a lot I need to do to be a full activist but I am in contact with people who are actually genuinely accomplishing real things, I try to go to local trans meetings in my comunity, to donate to local trans charities and to actually actively help with my time as well when I can. Is not much but I feel my understanding of the comunity improved a lot and as little as I do is already way more than anything I ever could fighting people on Tumblr.
