#idiotdad

...three come along at once.

This just came to mind.

My first inkling in shift into new challenges has been at StarShine’s dance class.

She has done it for a while and is getting bored of it. She has told us so and is acting up in class too. For a long time though, she has had a little pal there. She seems nice enough, a bit spoilt with a unruly younger sibling and a disinterested Dad sat there fucking about on his phone all class.

There is more back story to the Dad but not worth writing down - nevertheless, I don’t like him.

Of late though, StarShines Pal has started hanging around exclusively with another little girl. Of course this is fine. They are little kids. I’ve watched StarShine and she doesn’t seem affected, or didn’t seem affected. 

This was until last week when she tried to interact with the new pals and was rejected. She then tried to talk to another little girl and she was rejected there too.

I’ll admin it hurt. It shouldn’t and is irrational to think it is important. But seeing her even slightly rejected did get on my nerves. Obviously I’m not going to try and influence them to play to gether.....but it did remind me of a truly important skill to teach my kids.

Resilience.

If she was older, she may have been more upset. Not she just does her thing and carries on. 

And for me, I’ll do the same - I probably have a more subconscious thing against her dad than anything else, impacting in the way I think about the entire non-situation.