People in the lgbt+ comunity needs to stop invalidating Ace/Aro/Aroace people
I have a gay friend how is obcessed with sexual jokes. I have already told him I'm ace, my others friends told him it too (not they respect it much either, but they at least try to), but he just seems to not understand how making sexual jokes about me make me feel unconfortable. He can't understand how I don't never want to go to bed with anyone
EVERYONE thinks it's a phase or a trauma, that I'll find the right person and then I'll want something, that, deep down, I'm just confused (someone told me that shit). Well, look at what you just said and think about it. Dosen't it sound just homophopic? I think it does. It goes even deeper, because when I tell people I'm assexual, they get SURPRISED or even DISAPOINTED
Once, I went to eat out with my other friends and we got into a really deep conversation. The theme "ex" came and I had had a recent broke up at the time and everyone knews it was because I had found out I was assexual before I got stuck in the bathroom with my ex girlfriend and she wanted something more but I was TERRIFIED. Naturaly they started to ask me stuff about it but, really, they just wanted to know how does it feel to be ace. They said things like "Omg I can't imagine living without having sex like never, I couldn't do somethig like that" and "But how does it feels to not want anything? It feels so off to me". It hurted. They were both queer, people who in theory had nothing against anything, they always said that everyone should be respected despise their sexual orientation. But it seems hard for them to understand that sex is not as good for everyone as it is for them
Now I see how badly represented we (ace/aro/aroace) are represented EVEN for the LGBT people and how important it is to talk about it. For now, welcome back queer feeling of not being part of the concept of "normal human being" ig
