I’ve once read Erikson’s Stages of Development perhaps oversimplified as:

Identity – being a somebody

Capacity for intimacy – having a somebody

Experiencing generativity – helping a somebody

Acquisition of integrity – taking responsibility, achieving a somebody

Identity taking us through infant-hood, adolescence and puberty leaving the Quarter Life Crisis period put nicely at the Capacity for Intimacy Stage.

During a phonecall conversation from a 3rd friend, ‘You’re bored all the time because you don’t have any distractions! What do you do outside of work anyway?’

I responded by complaining that my major past times, which were centred around a subculture of fashion and music, were put to rest as they depended on a small community mostly based in London.

My friend immediately disregards my moaning, ‘I meant more of the male variety’.