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A GOOD LEADER l Lead and Follow

A good leader is...

1.A Leader Is More Than A Title

Too often, we associate a leader with a particular job or organizational title. The manager is the leader, surely, or someone up in the C-suite.

But people have a natural way of ferreting out who the real leader is, and turning to them no matter what the title is, and that’s exactly what happened in the case of David (which, by the way, is a true story I heard from a friend).

You can call a horse a cow, but that won’t make it so.

True leadership is much like social media in that social influence–how you connect and influence people–has more weight than the authority or power you have been assigned or lay claim to. Good leaders have qualities about who they are and what they do that supercede any job title placed on their head. Senior executives are merely that; they aren’t necessarily a good leader.

~When I Work  

2.Emotionally intellegent

a leader is aware to the emotions of other people. A leader respect them. A leader values everyone’s worth that will make others motivated. He has a vision that can benefit the common good.

A good follower...

1. Participates

2. Respects

3. Contributes

4. Is Open- minded

LOVE REQUIREMENT l My Kind Of Love

Love has a lot of definitions. Love is difficult to understand. I haven’t been into relationships yet but the kind of love I need is…Consummate love.

Who doesn’t want relationship with intimacy, passion and commitment, right?

Based on Robert Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love about this one,

This is the ideal kind of love in which all the three components are present in their right proportions. This form of love is considered to produce the perfect couple. The love relationship

-Totescute

Companionate Love is also one of my type.  

 Companionate love is the kind that exists among family members. It involves intimacy and long-term commitment .This kind of love is characteristic of many couples who still remain affectionate and committed to each other long after passion dies.

-Totescute

My kind of love is not only on people-related, but to other things as well.

Kpop

Music

Photos

Food

Cartoons

MANAGING EMOTIONS l The Emotion Challenge

Emotions are  complex experiences of consciousness, bodily sensation, and behavior that reflects the personal significance of a thing, an event, or a state of affairs. It is the way on how we respond to circumstances in life.

Based on Daniel Goleman’s Theory, these are ways that could contribute managing emotions be more intellectual and authentic:

1 Self-awareness 

 Identify what your strengths and weaknesses are and use it as an advantage in handling your emotions.

2 Self-management 

You know how to control yourself

3 Social skills

Able to have an effective communication to others.  

4 Empathy

You know how to understand others than judging them just on your own perspective.

5 Motivaton 

Healthy outlets for yourself  - your body, brain, heart and spirituality.

If these five things are done properly, you will have a healthy mind and relationship with other people.

I hate getting emotional; but when i do, these are ways on how i personally manage them:

Being positive

Have patience

Do not expect

Don’t be overshadowed by anger

Keeping my coolness

Proper Management of emotions would lead to emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence that would help a person to develop and be aware pn understanding the emotions of others. 

STEPS ON RELIEVING  l This works for me

“Stress is simply a reaction to a stimulus that disturbs our physical or mental equilibrium. In other words, it's an omnipresent part of life. A stressful event can trigger the “fight-or-flight” response, causing hormones such as adrenaline and cortisol to surge through the body.”

~Psychology Today

Stress is unavoidable. It can happen to you anywhere you go: at school, home, work, etc..It has many negative effects on our body- may it be internal or external; psychological, physical or spiritual. Some of the negative effects are depression and worsening of diseases.

Students in La Salle Academy often experience stress especially during the Examination week and the PT Week (or the so-called “Hell Week”). Student’s definition could be:

S – tudents experiencing strained brain.

T - rying to comply the needed

R – equirements. Requirements that contribute to

E – xhaustion and

S – uffering for the

S – tudents alive.

“Every stress leaves an indelible scar, and the organism pays for its survival after a stressful situation by becoming a little older.”

~ Hans Selye

General Adaptation from Selye’s theory can be applied when handling stress. It allows us to choose whether to ‘fight-or-flight’ from the situation. This theory is subdivided into three parts which are: (1.) Alarm Stage, (2) Resistance Stage and (3) Exhaustion Stage. With these three, we can somehow categorize how excessive stress is affecting our lives.

The STEPS I can suggest to others that have worked for me are:

1.) Be SINGLE (S.I.N.G.L.E)

S - tress

I - s

N -ow

G – one

L –ife’s

E – asier.

Since, again, stress is really unavoidable, one being S.I.N.G.L.E would be a great help.

1.    Identify what stresses you (Be open-minded for the results)

2.    Meditate

3.    Try to consult professionals  in the field for stress and seek help

4.    You can cry if needed

5.     Have an appropriate stress management planner

6.     Be S.I.N.G.L.E and Positive Always!

2.Eat!

Food is life.Food makes you happy.Happiness Reducing stress.

3. Chill to music

Music has always been my comforter to times that im stressed out. I really appreciate how music contributes to make my mood better.  Listening to music that i am harmonized with, allowing me to forget all the anguishes in life even just for a short period of time.

“ The soothing power of music is well-established. It has a unique link to our emotions, so can be an extremely effective stress management tool.

Listening to music on headphones reduces stress and anxiety in hospital patients before and after surgery.Music can help reduce both the sensation and distress of both chronic pain and postoperative pain.”

-Psychcentral

Highly recommending the songs in Kpop since they are bright, jolly and really eargasmic.  

4. Sleep well!

Depriving your sleep could lead to stress.

5. Last but not the least, know when to fight or flight!

Negative emotions like loneliness, envy, and guilt have an important role to play in a happy life; they're big, flashing signs that something needs to change.