I don't think that fans understand that if Obi-Wan's sad sobbing backstory in these Jedi Padawan/Quest series of books were true, it would make him look worse in the movies, it would mean that despite having a lot of common with Anakin (allegedly, because two weeks of slavery aren't comparable to 10, among many other things), despite being othered and rejected over and over, he still chose to be an ass and suck as a mentor.
And not even in a fun "this is an abuse cycle" way!
I do think is funny tho, these books are used to excuse everything about Obi-Wan's behavior, but Anakin is demonized and people jump onto you if you imply his issues are rooted on trauma.
Of course Anakin's crimes aren't justified, and of course Obi-Wan never did anything as abhorrent as Anakin's crimes. But if you dare to imply Obi-Wan was less than stellar, or god forbid, emotionally abusive, people will come to you in drones citing these damg books like they're an excuse lol
Coughing baby vs Hydrogen bomb type of argument. But I'm not here to say Anakin is the lesser of evils, I'm not here to say Vader didn't do anything wrong, but see that's the issue, because once you point the systemic failures that led to Vader existing, people will cry and howl that you're defending fascism or some bullshit.
But Obi-Wan didn't do wrong, never. Obi-Wan exists separated from this evil system. Obi-Wan is a bubble of goodness unaffected by the corrupting powers of evils, despite suffering almost as much as Anakin. Obi-Wan's little flaws are actually because he suffered just so much.
Having bad parents, having abusive or neglectful parents isn't a excuse for evil. But that doesn't mean they're free of all or any blame in how they shaped a person.
Is not Obi-Wan's fault Anakin was groomed, not directly, sure. Sure. But he sucked ass as a "parent", and as a brother too. He didn't want that kid, he's like the older brother being forced to take care of his half brother because their dad kicked the bucket. And now he resents the kid because he's saddled with a giant responsibility, except he's the one who actively made that choice.
It's fundamentally toxic, the fundation was doomed at the start. And there's always room for improvement, heck, their relationship seemed to start to improve a bit by ROTS, when Anakin was an adult and ironically drifting away from needing Obi-Wan emotionally. And at that moment it was too late and it all went down in flames.
But that isn't a excuse for Obiwoobie Kenobie, but he was so good guys, he had no flaws and no blame and he's just a victim and the universe was against him since day 1.