Mar 14, 2020
Working to treat the cause and affects not just the symptoms and the effects of DV trauma. #stopthecycle #stopthecycleofabuse #hoowillstopdv #ItsNotOK https://www.instagram.com/p/B9tWsm8F0cP/?igshid=vw6dh4dosq5o
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Working to treat the cause and affects not just the symptoms and the effects of DV trauma. #stopthecycle #stopthecycleofabuse #hoowillstopdv #ItsNotOK https://www.instagram.com/p/B9tWsm8F0cP/?igshid=vw6dh4dosq5o
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Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.
Maya Angelou
The brilliant Maya Angelou said it beautifully. Now we have to forge a society that allows us true “Knowing.”
Knowing is more than mental logic. Knowing is emotional truth balanced with logical truth. After trauma that emotional truth is clouded. Logically knowing something isn't ok and feeling something isn't ok, are two different things. Logic and emotional truths, no longer coexist in a healthy way when one isn’t equipped with the correct tools after trauma.
This trauma causes the disconnect and lack of tools we need to mentally gauging truly “knowing better.” Our communities and often our justice systems help cripple this more in cultural conviction and prejudice, making “toxic norms” feel ok. Allowing the cycle of abuse and trauma to be repeated and untreated.
Healing the Broken System
Part of HOO’s Domestic Violence Reform
HOO is striving to create new systems that are conducive to healing as a healthy and strong structure on the foundation of behavioral and mental health as they relate to trauma. Better identification of the psychological trauma attached to DV and trauma, allows for better creation of solutions to fix those problems, and prevent them from developing again.
HOO aims to treat the causes and effects of DV and trauma; not just the effects and symptoms. This DV reform will allow for guidance and understanding on a more defined level of operation. Officially categorizing DV as a behavioral and mental health concern, will help create treatments and processes that explore the true effects, affects, and complex psychology of DV and trauma. New processes should be implemented to allow us to better utilize our current resources. Then, where there is none, we should create new resources approaching care in a more trauma informed way when combating the problem of DV. We cannot, and should not, only look at the primary identity of DV as physical and /or sexual injury. Even physical and sexual abuse is for psychological/ mental response.
We must learn to now view DV as “mental injury” with a net result of physical and sexual injury. Now placing the mental injuries as one of the primary objectives of care for ALL sides of DV violence victims, survivors, and abusers.
MEET OUT TEAM:
(HOO) HELPING OTHERS ONWARD Christine Nicols COO & Co-founder Email: [email protected] facebook.com/helpingothersonward
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MEET OUT TEAM:
HOO HELPING OTHERS ONWARD Celina Meadows CEO, Creator, & Co-founder Email: [email protected] facebook.com/helpingothersonward
Celina is a DV survivor herself. She has experience working with both civilian and military processes. Celina has experience on the survivor and advocacy side of congressional hearings and an actively working with multiple organizations for better policy change in domestic violence and child abuse. Celina has also worked hands-on with children working and volunteering her time and art with children at public schools and community services dating back nearly 2 decades. She worked with the Department of Child Safety and currently working to pursue a degree in Behavioral Health. Carrying the belief we all have the human right to safety. She works diligently to make certain she’s doing her part in society to live up to the needed contribution(s) to her capability, to preserve that right!
ABOUT ME:
My children and I suffered terrible physical, verbal, emotional, financial, psychological, and myself sexual abuse at the hands of my now ex-husband and father of my children. There wasn’t just one thing that puts you in the paralysis to stay. The manipulation is strong. The fear often stronger. That matched with both your strengths and weakness, not just weakness alone helped contribute to the illusion of comfort through that fear and manipulation creating, toxic love. My own domestic violence experience started just like I’m sure many others would say. A slow boil. After driving myself in the circles of insanity with all the, “Why’s?” I came to terms with the way my ex-husband treated my children and I had nothing to do with us. But also know that the root of all our problem not only connect to the toxic culture of DV in our nation and his unit with the military, but ultimately his own unresolved childhood traumas.
A large part of my own DV recovery and healing was redirecting the energy that was wasted in thinking in the past and the past actions I could’ve made. They become too many to count, and too many things to give my power once more. With that energy I decided to redirect my focus to helping others in the multiple stages I seen my children and I. With this energy I forged a new spirit of determination allowing me to create Helping Others Onward HOO. Continually making forward movement to enact meaningful change for DV and all types of traumas, I’ve devoted my focus to healing trauma wombs through reforms and meaningful change. Here my ultimate goal is not only providing to help my children not carry any toxic cycles and maintain a well rounded healthy life after DV, but making this reality available to other families, specifically children after exposure to DV and trauma.
HOO’s Domestic Violence/Trauma Reform Objective
Part of HOO’s Domestic Violence Reform
Helping Others Onward (HOO)’s mission is to create Domestic Violence (DV) reform in order to obtain meaningful change in mindset and within broken structures, in all levels of our Justice system. We seek reform in our courts, police departments, legislative processes related to DV, and within community resources that are not unified in the way DV is approached and treated. Our justice system lacks education and procedures centered around mental health and trauma. This is often the gateway behavior to more physically violent crimes. To do this, we must change “Domestic Violence Culture.” This will allow us to better implement preventive care, exits, and treatment in all sectors of domestic violence. HOO will refer to ALL domestic “abuse” as domestic violence (DV). Largely because the face of DV should be changed and perceived as it truly is. DV is injury! DV injury is, and should be recognized as, an injury to every aspect of the victim’s physical, mental, and emotional being. Domestic violence is “the repeated use of forceful physical or psychological behavior for the purpose of coercion without regard for the individual rights of another.” This is the definition we have to recognize on a national level to better care for the cause and continuation of domestic violence.
Changing the identity of Domestic Violence and Trauma
Part of HOO’s Domestic Violence Reform
Ultimately, one of the greatest injuries in DV is often mental injury. A blow to the psyche can be just as devastating and dangerous to a person as a physical blow. HOO proposes new processes to allow us to better utilize our current resources and create new resources, when combating the problem of DV as the behavioral/mental health concern it is. We cannot, and should not, only look at the identity of DV as physical injury. We should now view mental injury as a primary care objective in treating domestic violence. Mental injury plays a significant role in DV preventative care, primary care during ongoing DV and post DV recovery and rehabilitation.
In changing this identity, we should also explore the stereotypes and stigmas attached to the words “Domestic Violence.” We have to release so many unhealthy notions and stop seeing DV as “a woman’s problem.” We need to see the umbrella term for what it is and how it hides countless disgraceful acts within. We need to acknowledge ALL the abuse, trauma, and crimes that encompass domestic violence. Child abuse, molestation, elder abuse, animal abuse, and so many more unspoken traumas are experienced within the realm of domestic violence but are rarely acknowledged as such. It is time to expose the monster we’ve allowed to continuously run rampant in our communities. By definition, DV is an epidemic and one that’s gone untreated for too long.