#holding something

Hey darling, 

You are not weird at all .  You are humans and humans are complex and we have tons of emotions and sometimes we do things without realizing it or knowing exactly why we are doing them.  Some people find it comforting to hold something or to have something to focus on. I want you to know that your feelings are valid, you never have to feel bad about how you feel. 

Next time you get that “weird” feeling when you aren’t holding something can you try and think about why you are feeling that way? Try and figure out what is making you want to be holding something so you can start to figure out what is going on. You can keep a  journal of all the times you feel like you need to hold something and why(if you can figure that out) so that you can start to figure out ways to deal with the feeling so you don’t have to be constantly holding something. 

If you can’t figure it out on you own you can try talking to someone about it. You can talk to a friend or family member about how you are feeling. It is important to remember that when you tell someone about how you feel they might not understand it all the way so it is best to explain everything as best as you can. If you get nervous about not being able to find the right words you can make a list of things you want to talk about before hand so you know what you are going to say. If you have any other questions you can always send us an ask or use our live chat feature.