1. In a group verse I had an original character that was loved by everyone and I was constantly told they forgot she wasn’t canon. ( Which was really exciting especially since I was new. But also it was towards the beginning of the birth of the fandom so I was around for a while before we made the following. ) So we have this group verse that had been going for a few months with multiple storylines and well thought out plots. ( We even made a blog for it to keep up with plots and things. ) It was so cool. But then one night the writer of my OC’s significant other and another of the other writers decided it would be cool to put their characters together romantically because they decided they shipped it suddenly. ( and it was already a very touchy ship in the fandom for reasons ) I woke up the next morning to my muse’s partner having abandoned her in a hotel room and running off with not only another character, but an UNDERAGE ONE. I ended up having to quit the group because it just upset me so much. It wouldn’t have been so bad if the other writer had talked to me and told me what they were thinking ( and I get I don’t own their character; but it was a group thing and it affected more than just them for it. ) or even done that with the group. But neither did and they both just turned our hard work into a crack thing with threads that didn’t fit in with the narrative at all. ( It was especially problematic because my character was only involved with the characters in the actual group in the verse through him. So there wasn’t really anywhere for my character to fit in since she hadn’t made relationships with characters that were alive in it. She was older than the others so she couldn’t interact in a school way like most of them did. Also did I mention my character had actual abandonment issues in her bio from the very beginning? ) They could have just done it outside the group but they did it to the group verse. 

But because of the above I started having full blown panic attacks IRL. Even during my college classes. My character was legit distracting me and messing with me. I don’t know if it is because I am a Pisces ( Super empathetic ) or?? A lot of my friends IRL have in the past called me an empath at times. I started to feel like Phoebe in Charmed honestly. AND IT WAS SO FRUSTRATING AND ANNOYING. I didn’t RP for a good 6 months in any fandom because it messed with me so badly.

My friends from the group RP contacted me a few months later once things had calmed down and I’d finally gotten back on to that account. They saw me make a post about lurking and let me know that the other two had left the group and that they had all been uncomfortable and upset by it as well along with an apology for not doing anything sooner. It was very sweet. I didn’t blame them at all but it was nice to hear it wasn’t just me over reacting to the #drama. The person that hadn’t been playing the character dating mine was a new person to the group and ended up a trouble maker apparently. It was actually the both of them as 2 of the 3 newer members. The third one had fit in a lot better and is loved by all. 

So..... that happened. I know it sounds confusing since I am not naming characters. Basically Character A and Character B were together in a group verse. Person C came in and was like ‘wouldn’t it be cool if...’ and so B left A for C. B and C then wrote very crack and stupid threads that messed up the group verse. B and C then got kicked out later. A came back eventually when I could RP again without having anxiety attacks and we all had fun writing again. I still talk to the writers from that group. We have a discord server to keep up with each other. <3 I love them all very much. They are all very sweet.

2. In another fandom I had a minor character that I’d fleshed out ( as you can see I like to do ;) ) and started writing with someone who was the SO of my character in canon. They told me they had bad luck before with another account of my character and asked if we could start them out as broken up and then work up to them getting back together. I was perfectly fine with this because I could easily relate. lol

This mun however had a power and a ‘I know everything’ complex. They were several years younger than me and definitely did not know everything about said fandom and would very regularly get things wrong. But lots of people would turn to them for information about canon because they repeatedly would make posts about how they were an authority on the subject. They started making their blog an advice for the fandom blog along with a character blog before making a separate blog to tell people how to play their characters essentially. Which I am NOT okay with. :/ 

But then they started being very rude to my character. We would talk ooc about mine (A) and theirs (B) then in threads she would do basically the opposite of what she said. My blog is independent and multimuse so my muse (A) ended up dating a brother of muse B’s character that was a mutual to both of us. They then started picking fights with me and the other mun (character C’s mun). And before that they had been kind of emotionally abusing the other mun repeatedly telling her she was wrong on things she wrote or was thinking of doing. 

I began to write with Muse B very rarely due to not liking their attitude and their character was not trying at all to get along with mine. No matter what I did she always had a problem with it or her muse did. So I started writing more with Mun C/Character C. We built each other’s characters up in a healthy ( or as healthy as that fandom could get XD ) relationship/way. Eventually Mun C stopped writing a lot with muse B. Suddenly Mun B had a whole new set of people to play with and they ignored us stating that they were writing with real writers now and how good their new friends were. They became like the #Clique of the fandom and were constantly tearing people down while also sending in anons to appreciation blogs about each other.