When I was younger it was so easy to bitch about my mum. Don't get me wrong she WAS difficult and abusive, when I finally left at 14 the police, social services and my school were involved. It would have been so easy to keep blaming her for everything in my life I was unhappy with. But that day 2 years after I left, standing in that messy shared kitchen of the hostel I was staying in, when I knew this wasn't enough for me, that I wanted MORE, I realised: MY LIFE, MY RESPONSIBILITY! 💔 Blaming wasn't getting me anywhere 💔 Neither was my anger 💔 Nor my fear They kept me stuck and feeling sorry for myself, I was a victim still... Just trying to survive. 💔 If I was going to heal I needed to stop blaming others and see the part I played in being a victim because: 💣 The world didn't owe me 💣 I disempowered myself 💣 I was sabotaging my life to be a martyr to my mum's issues It was hard to face that not going to lie. But there was a song lyric that I found inspiring. You may not like Def Leppard but the lyric goes: 🎶 Living is the best revenge, you can play Surviving is not the same as living and being emotionally free. Now it took time and effort to move past my pain, to become someone who has experienced a difficult mother, rather than someone who is defined by it. And I know you are here because you are looking for solidarity, support and validation. <3 But there's a reason I ask if you are ready to start your healing journey in my groups and that's because: 🚫 They are NOT victim support groups ✔ They are HEALING spaces A place to explore and to start to feel better. And maybe if it's right for you, to tap into my other services to help you explore this more deeply. Because this is what I was looking for and needed at 14, when I left home. It's my mission to make sure the right help is available when you are ready to heal. If you want to dig deeper just DM me a heart <3 or check the link in my bio, and we can talk it through. So many other women are benefiting from working with their mother wounds with me. #healingthemotherwound #hereandnofurther #Daughtersofdifficultmothers #narcissisticabuse #narcmum #toxicparenting #healing (at Tring, Hertfordshire) https://www.instagram.com/p/Ced50iVIEji/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=
