April is SA Awareness Month, so a TW is in order 🤍
To anyone who has ever experienced sexual abuse or assault:
I want you to read this and truly feel it in your heart: none of what happened to you was your fault. Not ever. You did not ask for it. You did not deserve it. And it does not make you weak, broken, or unworthy. You are still whole. You are still deserving of love, respect, and safety always.
It’s okay to feel everything, or even nothing at all. Anger, sadness, fear, confusion, numbness every emotion is valid. Healing isn’t linear. It isn’t a checklist or a race. It’s a journey you move through at your own pace, and every step you take no matter how small, matters. You are allowed to pause, to breathe, to rest, and to protect yourself. You are allowed to set boundaries, even with the people you love. You are allowed to prioritize your well-being.
If you choose to share your story with someone, that takes immense courage. Trusting someone with your pain is an act of bravery, and it deserves to be met with care, empathy, and respect.
To those who are trusted with someone’s story:
Please, listen without interrupting. Believe them. Do not question or doubt their experience. Do not search for “proof” or place blame. Do not try to fix them, rush their healing, or offer unsolicited advice. Simply be present. Remind them it was not their fault. Respect their boundaries. Let them lead the conversation. Sometimes the most powerful words you can offer are: “I believe you,” and “I’m here for you.” Your presence, your listening, and your validation can help someone feel seen, supported, and less alone.
This month, let’s also remember that sexual violence is not just a private issue, it’s a public health and community concern. It’s a problem that requires awareness, education, and collective action. We all have a role in creating a culture where consent is respected, boundaries are honored, and harm is prevented before it occurs. By learning, speaking up, supporting survivors, and modeling care and respect, we can help make the world a safer place for everyone.
To survivors: your story matters. Your voice matters. Your life matters. You deserve to feel safe, valued, and supported. You are not alone. Healing may take time, but you have the right to live without shame, without fear, and without blame. You are enough, exactly as you are.
To allies: your actions matter. Your words matter. The way you respond can create a space of safety, compassion, and empowerment. Together, we can lift up survivors, prevent future harm, and foster a culture of empathy, respect, and consent.
You are seen. You are heard. You are not alone.
