#hardtruthsaboutconsent

A Guide for Women with Good Hearts, Good Intentions, and a Sense of Responsibility

Being responsible with consent goes both ways. If you don’t want to falsely accuse a man—whether out of regret, social pressure, or unclear communication—here’s how to ensure you’re staying accountable and acting with integrity.

🔍 BEFORE THE HOOKUP: Set Clear Boundaries

✔️ Know What You Want – If you’re unsure about whether you actually want to hook up, don’t do it. Hesitation is a sign to wait. ✔️ Speak Up If You’re Uncomfortable – If you’re already second-guessing before anything happens, that’s your answer. Say no. Leave. ✔️ Choose Environments Where You Feel Safe – If you’re feeling pressured or unsafe from the start, that’s a red flag to walk away. ✔️ Don’t Ignore Your Instincts – If something feels off, trust that feeling before engaging, not after. ✔️ Be Aware of Alcohol & Substances – If you can’t make a clear decision, it’s best to wait until you can.

🔥 DURING THE HOOKUP: Communicate & Take Ownership

✔️ Use Your Words, Not Just ‘Vibes’ – Men cannot read minds. If you don’t want something, say it directly. ✔️ Stop the Encounter If You’re Uncomfortable – If you change your mind mid-way, say no and remove yourself. It’s okay to stop. ✔️ Don’t Assume He Knows What You’re Thinking – If you’re feeling uneasy but not saying anything, that’s on you. ✔️ Actively Participate or Clearly Withdraw – If you’re engaging, you’re consenting. If you’re not, make it obvious. ✔️ If You Want to Leave, Leave – No one is forcing you to stay. If you feel uncomfortable, don’t wait—remove yourself.

🚨 AFTER THE HOOKUP: Be Honest With Yourself & Others

✔️ Separate ‘Bad Sex’ From Assault – If you had a meh experience, that’s not a crime. Disappointment ≠ Assault. ✔️ Take Responsibility for Your Choices – If you consented at the time, don’t rewrite history the next day. ✔️ Be Aware of Social Pressures – If your friends judge you for the hookup, don’t falsely claim you were coerced to save face. ✔️ Reflect on Your Feelings Honestly – If you willingly engaged, but later wish you hadn’t, that’s regret—not assault. ✔️ If He Didn’t Violate Consent, Don’t Ruin His Life – False accusations destroy lives. Be truthful, not emotional.

🔚 FINAL VERDICT: Protect Your Integrity & Others’ Reputations

Consent isn’t a game of charades. Use your words.

If you say yes, own it. If you say no, enforce it.

If he did nothing wrong, don’t let emotions, regret, or peer pressure twist the truth.

Truth matters. Real victims deserve to be heard—false accusations only make it harder for them.