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Imagine a world when the music unites all the people

Flying Hearts are an indie rock duo based in the South of England.

BIO:

"After our singer/songwriter, Joe, lost his best friend at just 28 years old, he went on a songwriting spree, spitting out a tribute to his friend 'Bury Me in England', as well as the powerful tracks Imagine, Gangster Lies and Save The Date".

His songwriting highlights issues with the world we live in right now. From suicide, to forced gang activity, to corrupt and greedy governments and frustration with society. ​​

​Born frm the ashes of punk's distortion and the discovery of acoustic melodies, Flying Hearts are an indie-rock duo that redefines the genre's boundaries. 

​Joe Wenman (vocals) on the new single, Bury Me In England: "I wrote the song shortly after my friend's funeral this year. He was only 28. I was and still am heartbroken. I hope this song provides comfort and explanation to anyone out there who has lost someone too young". ​

​Flying Hearts are a duo made up of Joe Wenman who writes the songs, and Joe Swift on lead guitar and backing vocals. The journey really began in their school days, roaming the corridors of Toynbee School together, near Southampton, rollups in pockets and sporting Green Day sweatbands. 

​The lads love of music led them to skip classes, losing themselves hidden away in the music department, crafting songs on drums and guitars. While this may have hurt their GCSE results, it ignited a lifelong love for music that would eventually bring them back together.

​Upon the death of Joe's friend, Flying Hearts were really born with the creation of heart wrenching song 'Bury Me In England'. Fed up with a system that leads to so much young death, depression and boredom, Flying Hearts chose to break free and start a new revolution for followers of any age. 

​"If you're fed up, come with us and have a f$£king party. I don't care if you're 16 or 60, gay or straight, black or white, happy or suicidal. You are welcome here and you always will be".

​The Flying Hearts movement has been steadily building an enthusiastic following, with gig bookings confirmed in legendary venues such as The Joiners (Southampton), The Macbeth (London) and The Fleece (Bristol). Flying Hearts aim to impress with their poetic, punky songs and chaotic, raw energy. 

​Frequently compared with The Libertines bromance of Pete and Carl, the Joe's perform with love and gratitude towards each other. They take a lot of influence from The Libertines, but also from other bands like Oasis, Green Day, Blur, Wunderhorse and Fontaines DC. 

Losing someone we love is one of life's most challenging experiences. Whether it's a family member, friend, or even a beloved pet, saying goodbye can be incredibly painful and overwhelming. It's normal to feel unsure about how to navigate this difficult process, especially when the emotions are raw and you're struggling to come to terms with the loss. Here are some gentle ways to say goodbye when you find it difficult to do so:

Acknowledge Your Feelings

First and foremost, recognize that it's okay to feel lost, confused, or even numb when someone passes away. Grief manifests differently for everyone, and there's no right or wrong way to feel. Allow yourself the space to experience your emotions without judgment.

Create a Personal Ritual

Consider creating a personal ritual or ceremony to say goodbye. This could be as simple as writing a letter to the person who passed, lighting a candle in their memory, or visiting a place that holds special meaning for both of you. Rituals can provide a sense of closure and allow you to express your feelings in a meaningful way.

Share Memories

Sharing memories of the person who passed away can be a comforting way to honour their life. Gather with friends or family members who knew them well and reminisce about the moments you shared together. Celebrate their accomplishments, their quirks, and the impact they had on your life.

Write a Letter

If you find it difficult to express your feelings verbally, consider writing a letter to the person who passed away. Pour your heart out on paper, expressing everything you wish you could say to them. This can be a cathartic way to process your emotions and say goodbye in your own time and space.

Seek Support

Don't hesitate to lean on your support network during this time. Reach out to friends, family members, or a counselor who can offer a listening ear and emotional support. Sometimes talking to others who are also grieving can provide comfort and validation.

Embrace Rituals or Traditions

If you belong to a cultural or religious community that has specific rituals or traditions surrounding death and mourning, consider embracing these practices. Participating in familiar customs can provide structure and guidance during a time when you might feel adrift.

Give Yourself Time

Healing from the loss of a loved one takes time, so be patient with yourself throughout the grieving process. It's okay if you don't feel ready to say goodbye immediately or if it takes longer than expected. Allow yourself the space to heal at your own pace.

Find Meaning in the Legacy

Lastly, find ways to honour the person's legacy and keep their memory alive. This could involve carrying forward their values, continuing traditions they cherished, or supporting causes they were passionate about. By finding meaning in their life, you can create a lasting connection that transcends their physical presence.

This is my introductory post. This is also my first blog, so I hope whoever finds this, can bare with me. This blog will be mostly made up of my grieving process. I will touch more on that in a bit. I don’t want it to be a complete downer so I may add a touch of flavor of me. For now, let me talk a little about me and what this whole thing will be about.

Firstly, my name is Kaycee, I’m 25. I live in PA, I’m a hairstylist, I enjoy simple things, great things, small things. You’ll get to know me the more this moves along.

I’m doing this blog, hopefully to reach out to young people my age or older. Maybe so they/you don’t feel alone, like I do.

I just lost my mom to breast cancer back in February. From the time of diagonsis to her passing was quick and a whirlwind. What I went through, most people my age, don’t understand. Mostly because, they haven’t gone through it yet. So, here I sit, alone. Now, I’m not completely alone, I have an amazing support system and amazing friends. No one understands, and that’s the issue.

This blog is for the person who feels like their alone, and no one knows what they’re feeling and no one understands. This is for the person who is sick if hearing “I’m [so] sorry”. That it upsets you more than comforts you. For the person who is feeling lost.

Maybe no one will read this or maybe one person will and it’ll help them. I’m going to try to post weekly and if I can, more than once a week. I’ll dive into more details and feelings in later posts. And spend more time getting this whole thing set up. I also welcome discussions and questions. I want to vent as much as help someone.