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3. How long have you been aware of your sexuality/gender? I’ve known I was trans for over a decade but I didn’t have a word for it until 5 years ago. I’ve known I was bi for about 8 years but only came to terms with it 2 years ago.

5. Share a positive memory about coming out? I suppose my best memory would be the non-reaction from my friends in my groupchat? It was so refreshing to not have people give a fuck about it. Their reactions were literally like “okay cool” and then conversation continued as normal. Most of my memories of coming out have been pretty violent so I don’t really have a ‘positive’ one. 

16. Any tips on coming out? MAKE SURE YOU ARE ABLE TO FINANCIALLY SUPPORT YOURSELF FOR CHRIST’S SAKE. If you’re a minor and can guarantee a positive reaction? Go for it. But if you are still dependent on your parents for accommodation and finance and food, and aren’t sure what their reaction will be either wait until you are financially independent or have a serious back up plan. If it goes south make sure you have a friend or a family member you can go to. Look up shelters in your area, or seek out lgbt organisations for homeless queer youth such as the Albert Kennedy Trust in the UK. MAKE SURE YOU DO THIS BEFORE COMING OUT. I know first hand the fear of going into coming out being naive about my parents reactions and then facing the very real possibility of not having a home and having no fucking plan how to solve that. I know it sucks to wait if you’re ready, but your stability in terms of finance, accommodation and food is of the upmost importance.