I apologize if this has been asked before, I couldn’t find a clear answer on any blogs… It might be my poor understanding or maybe because English isn’t my first language, but I have been struggling to grasp something 4DBarbie said. I hope you can help me.
She says, in her Failing with the Law of Assumption document, this: “when Neville said ‘don’t accept it’, he really meant that as delusional as it sounds. If the day went on with you identified as someone you don’t want, don’t believe that was so”. My understanding of this is that she’s telling us, when we understand we are not the character, we don’t have to accept the events of that day being as they were. We can choose to be aware of a different character/world/life that is more to our liking. She says the ‘change’ should be no more than 3 days, even overnight. And even if we wake up and life is still the same, don’t go back to believing in it. Just think of/remember everything as perfect.
But in a different post, she says the following: “I don’t teach to do anything to the 3D, not even deny it. Not seeing the world as it is, is an aversion to it (Lester). Your 3D is right and perfect, what you see is what you are. Fearing it, trying to manipulate it, lying to yourself about it being something different are all vain and useless attempts. See it as it is and it will fix itself.”
I have been reading lots of her posts, I just discovered her work last month and she was very articulate so I’m quite sure this misunderstanding is my own issue.. Maybe it’s a language barrier but I’m struggling to understand the difference between: denying the events of the day/not seeing the world as it is (which seems to be what she advises against and calls an aversion) VS not accepting the events of the day/seeing the world as perfect and how you want it to be (which I think is what she’s advocating for)? By “see it as it is and it will fix itself”, does she mean to acknowledge and accept even the “undesirable” aspects of character/world/life, or are we to see it all as perfect/only as we want it to be?
Sorry if the question is repetitive, and sorry for the bad English! Have a lovely day/night! 💜
"not accepting the events of the day/seeing the world as perfect and how you want it to be (which I think is what she’s advocating for)?"
when she says "See it as it is and it will fix itself." i read it as "See it as the illusion it is (remember Self basically) and it will adjust itself"
"Your 3D is right and perfect, what you see is what you are." = You are expressing Vanessa perfectly in this moment.
"denying the events of the day/not seeing the world as it is (which seems to be what she advises against and calls an aversion)"
this is stuff like lying to yourself, saying you 'know you are the Self, but...' its trying to convince yourself of xyz, trying to get the mind to think this, its a forcing feeling. you know what these things feel like, so you should be able to feel the difference between the two
i remember a nisargadatta quote she shared from an ask about fear:
Q: What do I do when a desire or fear comes to my mind? it doesn't feel right to suppress them... :(
Ada: I am not talking of suppression. Just refuse attention. Nisargadatta has a saying “When you happen to walk in a crowd, you do not fight every man you meet — you just find your way between.” Neville has another “Indifference is the knife that severs, feeling is the tie that binds.” When you refuse to play the game, you are out of it.
its not about denial, its indifference/detachment - which you start to feel when you remember your Self
i think this may be helpful for you.
