Reposted from @t22felton - Mad love to @thisisbwright for writing such an amazing book! 🐍 & 🦁 will both enjoy it equally. Go gently peoples #gogently x #tomfelton https://www.instagram.com/p/CcjoPNqKm1U/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

“Every day in every way I get better and better” what an encouraging phrase passed down through the generations. #gogently https://www.instagram.com/p/CAE_mW7A1eQ/?igshid=fkgcqi5xyz2f

Connecting with our children from the beginning and through their growing years is a privilege...connecting in a positive way is a winning strategy #happymothersday #gogently (at Brisbane, Queenland, Australia) https://www.instagram.com/p/B_1Ww6tJ5eb/?igshid=bojlx680hamc

Taking the time to prepare a meal together makes it enjoyable to eat together #family #togetherwearestronger #gogently https://www.instagram.com/p/B_I7Z9aJT_H/?igshid=14disc1y66woi

How is your self talk? Hands up if it is more negative than positive! This was a homework item for a client recently and I believe we can all use the reminder. I know I can. We can't simply balance the negative talk by saying a positive. It never really balances because let's be honest, the negative usually sticks more. We must become aware and begin to override the tendency to be harsh on ourselves. This must be a priority or it will feel like too much and you will quit by midday. Example, dropped a stack of papers on the floor. Thought to myself, ”you idiot, get it together.” Would you say that to someone else? I'd hope not. Correction. ”I apologize, we are not an idiot and we made a simple mistake. We didn't deserve to speak that way or receive that message. I am sorry and I won't let it happen moving forward. I've got you.” This may seem silly, but if you hurt someone else you would apologize. I will even do this in the mirror and out loud. Because, It matters, you matter. Can you put this into action for yourself? You deserve it. Be kind to yourself, you're setting the example for others, showing them exactly how to treat you. #gogently (at Virginia Beach, Virginia) https://www.instagram.com/p/B1_mZtihlY6/?igshid=hvnpqjegdhh7

Have you ever avoided someone suffering a loss? Maybe you don't know what to say or how to show up for them. Maybe it feels hard. We have all been there. But, Maybe it's because you haven't dealt with your own pain and the invitation to sit with someone else in theirs seems too unbearable. Think back to a loss, death, breakups, even career-related. Did you move through the trauma? Lean in? Honor it? Or were you hurried to move on? Be tough? Get through it? Most of us were never taught how to feel at all, let alone that is was okay and perfectly healthy and normal to. When we rush past our emotion, when we try to be tough for others, when we plant a smile and numb out, when we work around the emotion hell-bent to avoid it like the plague we abandon ourselves further into the suffering. Then, not only are you sad, grieving, lost, worn, overwhelmed, hurt and/or traumatized, etc., you’re also effectively judging yourself for a system that allows us to separate beyond other species and leaving what you truly need most as if you don’t matter. I imagine the seedling looks at the layers of dirt above it and thinks growth is impossible, but nature is proof that we can all break through. Often times that starts with honoring ourselves to grow through it by literally moving our bodies through it. Allowing whatever we think we need to be okay and then to provide that as much as possible. You want to dance, then dance. You want to throw yourself on the bed and sob, then sob. Mostly just lean in and listen to what your heart needs. It will always tell you, especially if it can trust you will continue to show up for yourself. Gently. Consistently. Constantly. #gogently Pain is inevitable, how we suffer and for how long is up to you. I’m here for you! (at Virginia Beach, Virginia) https://www.instagram.com/p/B1zF5W8B9Q-/?igshid=z5saz7e43kz1

Breathe. The past proves what you can endure. All you can do and even shows you ways to do things differently. The future will reflect the choices you're making right now. Worry and stress come from attempting to alter the future without being in the current moment. This instant is the only reality, the only thing you truly can control. Not what's going to happen tomorrow or in two weeks or twenty years. That will come without fail. But right now you control, you choose, you own. It's so easy to fall into the future before it's here, to let overwhelm consume you, to want to jump in bed and hide there to avoid the adulting, the dark and stormies you're creating. Would it be possible to recognize the panic, fear, overwhelm coming and to make the next step however small in spite of the normal reactions? Answer, yes. See it is impossible to think about two things simultaneously. (really, look it up) Right now, you're reading this and not thinking about your stress.. And look, now you're thinking about your stress... You're in the drivers seat. Practice: next time you feel the negativity coming on, I want you to close your eyes, take a deep breath, feel the weight of your body onto the Earth. Think about your pinky toe, then your collarbone, then your left knee and then your right ear. Repeat that. You are choosing to consciously think about something other than your stress. It is completely possible to choose one thought over another, so why do you continue to give your power away? be right here, right now, and take the next smallest step towards what you want for your life. After all, tiny steps still make a mile; your job is to know the direction, right now, before the destination. #gogently #stayinthismoment #tinystepsmakeamile https://www.instagram.com/p/B1qyaR_hg7Y/?igshid=xo6svrx2z6vb