indulging my urge to go Crip Eye for the Normate Guy a la Robert McRuer on the person from this post (link) so! here’s the deal honey:
keep the PrEP, keep the Tums, maybe keep the Imodium depending on your situation. throw that marketed to queer men, normative, pro-bodylessness garbage in the trash.
for the regular fiber supplements: if you think you actually need them and you’re not just trying to rewrite your body’s totally healthy functioning, we’re gonna get you an appointment with a gastroenterologist. we’re gonna demand with cameras in their face that they test your ESR, CRP, HLA-B27, celiac (both the antibodies and the genetic markers), and fecal calprotectin. we’re gonna figure out what’s up and weigh what lifestyle modifications you do and don’t want to make.
you and every potential sexual partner are gonna sit down and you’re gonna do two things:
watch a video on the digestive system and how nutrients need to be absorbed in the fucking intestines. it’s what they’re there for. you cannot rush everything out regularly and not suffer the consequences.
read Kirsty Liddiard and Jen Slater’s work on leaky bodies. if he wants to fuck you, he’s gonna need to supply a 500-word summary of how unrealistic standards for receptive partners of anal sex under the pretense of “hygiene” enforces mechanisms of state control against disabled and/or unhoused people to uphold white supremacy.
we can get you some black condoms and gloves if you really want, but if he only wants to stick his dick somewhere totally shitless, he should buy a goddamn sex toy.
