hey, there! ( ´ ▽ ` )ﾉ

from what you’ve explained to us, it does sound like you might be in the aromantic spectrum! your romantic orientation might fit one of the following:

Akoiromantic / Lithromantic:describes someone who may experience romantic attraction, and likes the idea of being in a romantic relationship, but stops experiencing romantic attraction, or does not enjoy it, once they are in a romantic relationship and/or when the attraction is reciprocated. Many people don’t want to act on it or have it reciprocated because of this. See this for info on the lith/akoi term discussion.Cupioromantic:describes someone not romantically attracted to anyone, but desiring to form a romantic relationship.Grayromantic / Greyromantic / Gray aromantic / Grey aromantic:describes someone who experiences romantic attraction only rarely, weakly, unstably / unreliably, and / or gains / loses the attraction under certain (maybe unknown) circumstances. can be used as an umbrella term for identities like demiromantic and akoiromantic, etc (anyone on the aromantic spectrum that isn’t just aromantic)Post rubor:Post rubor means after blush in Latin. Someone who is a post-rubor aromantic can quickly get crushes on others and have romantic feelings for someone but once the excitement of a new romance/flirtation is gone, the romantic feelings disappear. The romantic feelings can last as little as a couple days or as much as a month. Many of these feelings are based on the feelings of others. For example if you are an empath, you can often feel when someone has romantic feelings for you, but begin to block them out quickly, hence the fast dissipation of your own romantic feelings. (X)

take your time! it’s completely okay to be confused; the world of attraction (and its multitude of types) is a hard one to navigate, and it’s a-okay to take your time and try to figure out what you feel most fits/works for you! 

i’m cupioromantic, which means that i would really like to find someone i can do romantic relationship-y things with (which is really vague, because what “romance” and “romantic things” mean depends on each individual). it took me approximately twenty-one years to figure it out, and it’s an ongoing process—um. what i was trying to say was!! 

the information you gave us about how you feel regarding romance/relationships does sound like you’re in the aromantic spectrum! the spectrum is broad and we’re still trying to figure out the details, because everyone has something new to share with us—and if you believe that you’re a part of the aromantic spectrum, then you probably are!

i’m sorry i rambled so much (;´Д`)

i hope i helped with some of the questions you had!