#gamesindustrynormal

It's the obvious things. The biological differences, the societal pressure to conform. The various alternatives thrown at us - you just have masculine/feminine interests, that doesn't have to mean anything. You're just interested in a surface-level presentation. You're just a pervert. You're just trying to escape responsibility/gain privilege. We really should be dismantling gender roles altogether rather than moving between them. So many excuses for why what we're feeling doesn't mean what we think it means.

But it's also subtle, well-meaning things that get twisted by self-loathing. A trans person telling anecdotes of gendered experiences in their childhood and sure you found a lot of similarities to your own life, but also things that you could not relate to. Their description of dysphoria involves panic attacks and anxiety, but what you are feeling is more akin to a constant sense of hopelessness. They talk about benevolent friends seeing them for who they are and helping them come to terms with it, and no-one has ever seen that in you. At least not exactly like that.

Surely if your experience is so different you can't be trans. It's one of the other things.

And the more trans people I talk to, the more I understand that where we are coming from, what is important to us and where we are going is wildly different. Even for people who want nothing more than to pass as cis the ways in which they realized this and the journey they are taking there has a lot of variance. There's a reason good therapy focuses on what, specifically, would make you happier rather than how many trans boxes you check.

More In Stars and Time fanart. Now to find something to attach them to...

Sure! I improvised it and didn't really take notes, so the actual numbers here are probably wrong in many places. I encourage you to use the pattern as a general guideline and add increases/decreases/rows as you see fit if the shapes don't come out right.

"resume" is a very popular filename and it is super annoying to have to rename them so you can find them later. firstname_lastname_discipline is the gold standard.

A lot of people put links to their github or online portfolio in the resume these days, which is great. Sure, you can't use it if you print the resume but it has mostly outlived its usefulness at that point.

pdf files are faster to open, smaller and more portable than word documents.

People really don't tailor their resume to the position they are applying for. And I get it, every entry-level job has hundreds of applicants so you need to go wide. But if you are applying to write client engine code all those paragraphs about webpages and databases are a waste.

for entry-level jobs, no-one has enough relevant experience to take up more than one page. Some write more pages anyway.

Job descriptions tend to have "required" and "nice to have" skills. Not always labeled as such, which admittedly is on us - we should be more clear. And some applicants do not seem to realize that if their resume does not indicate that they have all the required skills it will probably not be considered.

A good entry-level resume will have a mix of group projects, personal experiments and a list of skills. Potentially also coursework and/or professional experience. If it is just one or two of those things it tends to feel like something is missing.

... Admittedly everyone has their own preferences, so maybe following the advice of some anon of tumblr isn't the way to go. And if I am being honest, even I wouldn't reject someone for uploading a 3-page "resume.doc".

But even trying to go the extra mile you are often a victim of circumstances - you have several candidates and you want to make sure to evaluate them fairly, but one of them is dragging their feet getting back to you. One of your critical interviewers is suddenly out sick. The Talent Acquisition agent handling the req left their job and the person filling in has to be onboarded while filling their responsibilities for some other team. Priorities of the team shifted what the role you are hiring for is about.

Job hunting is stressful, just waiting to get a response can be a nightmare at the best of times. A few things you can do as an applicant though;

Always ask when you can expect to hear back unless the next interaction is already scheduled. Ask the interviewers, if you can't ask them, ask the recruiter via email. If they fail to meet the deadline that doesn't necessarily mean anything bad, but it gives you a good excuse to reach out yourself without the risk of being annoying.

Having deadlines is normal. Many people have competing offers that they need to respond to. If you have a deadline, inform the recruiter about it - they will likely try to work around your schedule. Like, don't lie about it to make yourself seem desirable or hurry them into a decision, it can backfire. But if you don't let them know about your deadline they might drag their feet to solve some other timing issue.

Interviewers typically leave you some time to ask your own questions at the end of a loop, sometimes the time you are given is not enough or maybe you couldn't think of anything in the moment. It is a good idea to come prepared, but if you realize after the fact that there was something you wanted to ask about - reach out to the recruiter and ask them to forward the question to the interviewer. They might not be able to help, but they typically don't mind trying.

It is a bad way to conduct interviews, and honestly there is little to learn from it - you can't possibly memorize every piece of arcane knowledge some engineer with a chip on their shoulder thinks is important. Admit you do not know but if you encountered a situation where it mattered you would look it up, and hope for the best.

The interesting thing is that this happens in interviews focusing more on soft sciences as well, but it is much more difficult to know if you run into it. Questions in interviews probing for culture fit, collaboration or leadership tend not to have any obvious right or wrong answers. So someone asks you an open-ended question, like what you would do if you encounter a problem you have not seen before, and will fail you on it unless you have a very specific answer.