top surgery in 18 days! 🎉
i’ve been inhibited about posting too overtly about this due to a lot of neurotic fretful curlicues and in particular a knotty and unpalatable how-do-you-do-fellow-kids shame-and-anger cluster (average age for this is probably under half my own, etc)
but on reflection: fuck that. there’s a doughty little population of us oldies here on tumblr, and some of us are on tumblr, the social media platform closest to full-spectrum lgbtq+ friendliness, in defiance of its youth coding, for a reason; maybe someone else out there is stuck in the midlife gender rumination spin cycle, like i was—
(i’m convinced a meaningful slice of gen x is stuck. those stats putatively showing lower incidence and prevalence of all the non-cishet variations in older generations vs younger ones, which transphobes wave around as proof It’s All A Fad? those stats do not reflect a near universal cisheterosexuality in older cohorts. they reflect severe hermeneutical poverty in early life, calcifying life trajectories, sunk costs, and fucking settling. it’s literally the survivorship bias plane meme)
anyway so maybe someone out there could use the news that real people our age do the thing. fwiw i asked the first doctor i ever spoke to about gender affirmation back in early 2022, “am i the oldest person who has ever come to you about this,” and she said, “no, but every patient your age i see asks me that same question,” so there’s that, teeth.clenching.rictus.grin.emoji
