I am a FTM male. I cant take testosterone so I dont look it in the slightest. So my dysphoria is kicking my ass. My parents dont believe in Gender dysphoria, and my mom believes that because I am autistic, my obsession with labeling and gender is part of ‘wishing i was a boy.’ Which is stressful, considering from the time I was a kid, my body distressed me. My mom is one of those women who are: “its okay to have trans friends. But not my kid. Gender is just a label.” Because I am autistic, I have a hard time processing it.. My mom an dad wouldnt be to- pleased I guess I could say to put it nicely if I started taking testosterone. So is there any advice you can give me in looking more masculine?

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Hey there! I’m not sure if talking to your mother about your gender is something that you’d feel comfortable doing (or writing to her, if that’s easier), but it could help to explain to her that ‘wishing you were a boy’ is part of actually being a boy. If someone wishes to not be their birth gender, then that’s generally pretty telling that they’re actually not. Being autistic in no way invalidates being trans, or nonbinary. We have resources for parents in our FAQ if you wanted to flip through them. And remember, once you’re 18 you don’t need your parents permission to start HRT if that’s what you want to do.

As for some suggestions for looking more masculine, I would definitely suggest either rolling up your sleeves, or opting for short sleeves. If you wear a watch, wear it so it doesn’t slip and sits around your wrist, or even wear some leather cuffs/wrist bands, as these tend to be more masculine.

If you feel comfortable wearing makeup filling in your eyebrows with either eyeliner or eyeshadow or an eyebrow pencil can make them look darker and fuller, both of which help to masculinise your face. 

Working out is GREAT for improving mood and helping you masculinise your silhouette. If you don’t want to do a full-on workout, just do push ups. They work your shoulders and chest, they’re a pretty good workout, and if you start slow you can build up to doing a lot of them. Darebee has a really great guide on how to get started, so don’t get discouraged if you can’t do many (or one!) at first. Because seriously I’ve been going to the gym for months now and I still can’t do them

Hi I’m Taavo. I only recently realized I might be trans… it’s a scary time rn. Any tips to pass better?

Hey Taavo! I know it can be frightening and difficult to come to terms with, but I want you to know that I’m really proud of you. It can be scary at first, especially when you’re not sure where you fit in or how comfortable you are being out. And that’s ok! It’s important to take things at your own pace and make sure you are comfortable and feel safe in your transition. 

I’m not sure if you own a binder or not, but if chest dysphoria is something you struggle with its worth investing in one. gc2b, Flavnt, and Underworks are the most popular and most safe places to purchase a binder from (underworks also sells compression shorts). 

Dressing in ‘men’s’ clothes can also help if you feel comfortable buying clothes from the men’s section. Button up shirts are popular, especially if they have patterns as this can help to conceal chest bumps. Looser or non-fitted shirts will give you a less obviously feminine silhouette and imo are far more comfortable than fitted shirts. 

I’m 17 and pre-t, I don’t think I pass at all but maybe dysphoria is just messing with my head, what’s your opinion?

Hey man first off I gotta say I’m digging your aesthetic in this picture. With the ocean and the outfit you look like a gruff fisherman on shoreleave who may or may not find some magical sea creature (and fall in love?).

Anyway lol. While you do have softer features, I think your fashion is masculine enough to give people pause when they pass you on the street. Perhaps you could try filling in your eyebrows? Cis men tend to have thicker/darker eyebrows, although it all depends on genetics. I know you can get eyebrow filler-inner stuff from most places and they come in a range of colours to suit eyebrow... colour stuff (sorry I know basically nothing about makeup). 

hi! i felt really good in these so i had to share (:

Thanks babe! <33333 Love ya

i’d cast you as: fem!Dean <3

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I’d cast you as: Pamela Barnes!

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