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ooh, good question! i haven’t thought a lot about him, but i have a few small thoughts. that one time we see him under in Free Falling i did alude to pain play—i don’t know exactly why i feel like he’d be big into that, just a vibe.

i get the feeling that tomura’d actually need to scene more often than your average sub, to balance out the rule “running a villain army” deal. he’d probably be pretty private about it, though, so they wouldn’t see him much.

with the hands and all seeming to serve at least a little bit for grounding/comfort in canon, i think he’d also be a big fan of bondage and need near-constant contact when he’s under. and, again, like i mentioned in Free Falling, if there’s no tether and he drops i think there would be a lot of anxiety/paranoia/perhaps angry lashing out as a means of protection. it’s a very vulnerable position to be in, and he’s facing a lot of outside threats and pressure.

all that could probably be linked back to being raised by all for one in some kinda way, but i haven’t really worked out how. i sort of want it to be different from the way hawks was brought up, just for variety, but also different from the way shinsou was brought up—i haven’t finished that fic yet, lol, but i know i’ve discussed it here before. but the short version is that shinsou was basically raised as a traditional (negative connotation) sub, even though he’s a dom, and hawks….we all know how hawks was raised. like a gun to be aimed.

i feel like shigaraki would have had more personal freedom/independence/initiative built in, because he was expected to be a leader in his own right, but the way he talks and acts about submission also implies he wasn’t really raised to see it as a bad thing. like, if you think about the timeline, he has his conversation about subbing with hawks only a couple of months after taking over the league on his own. not nearly enough time to unlearn a ton of harmful beliefs about himself!

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so, like anything, there are still many different paths to take in practicing the traditional d/s dynamics in this world. however, this is going to include some of the most common ones.

traditionalism has mostly fallen out of fashion outside of older generations and the upper-upper class, but plenty of people still practice it, or mix parts of it with more modern norms. it is also very often used as a mask or excuse for abuse, bigotry, etc, but it is not inherently such.

in traditional frameworks, dominants are strong guardians and confident guides, while submissives are gentle caretakers and fierce protectors. true traditional doms are aware that a submissive can rarely be forced into anything, and that their communities (their circles, if you will) are incredibly strong. still, subs have needs that dominants do not, and they need to be properly cared for in order to thrive.

some more tenets, in no particular order, because i cannot be bothered:

all traditional relationships involve 24/7 dominance and submission. the exact intensity varies from relationship to relationship, but it's always present

common examples include submissives kneeling rather than sitting, especially at meals; public discipline; errands and chores framed as acts of service; doms choosing outfits, activities, meals; subs not being allowed to speak to doms alone, or at all without permission

the dominant is the head of the house, but the submissive is its heart. doms will speak to strangers and guests, take care of major decisions, etc, but if the sub is unhappy or distrustful of something, you best listen

(of note--a cultural holdover of this can be seen in Cross the Line chapter 5, when katsuki asks izuku if their friends can come into their home)

claimed submissives should always be obviously marked when in public. in some very strict beliefs, they aren't allowed out alone at all except for select (read: sub-only) gatherings

dating typically includes arranged contracts and bondings, often while the partners (or at least the submissive) are still underage

some are more lax these days, but the most staunch traditionalists still believe subs shouldn't work outside the home, since they are too vulnerable. a few groups have taken this to the logical end that doms shouldn't work outside the home, either, since that would leave their submissive unguarded at home, or that submissives should accompany their dom to work

("vulnerable" to a certain sense of the word, anyway. sub circles have been a known phenomenon for centuries, so there was/is a decent chance of your sub getting into a brawl while out and about instead of being taken advantage of)

in the case of a polyamorous relationship, there will be a hierarchy among the members, which can lead to one submissive having a certain level of power over another, etc. this can be based on age, who entered the relationship first, or any other factor the partners decide on

doms and subs alike tend toward corporal punishments above others, and tend to be stricter and harsher about even minor infractions

in some types of relationships, subs do not have a safeword, but instead have scheduled periods where they can renegotiate their limits if they choose. this is now illegal and very frowned upon, but still continues to be practiced (ie just because your contract has to say that you have a safeword doesn't mean you have to use it / technically you dont have to have a contract). obviously this can get very messy if anything goes wrong

obviously all traditional ideas are built pretty firmly on the idea of doms & subs only, so historically switches have had a difficult time fitting into them. there is a lot of pressure for a switch to either lean heavily into one side or the other or enter into a poly relationship where they can have both a dom and a sub. even switch/switch relationships don't really "work" due to the 24/7 nature of the thing

so, in a universe with an extra axis of social hierarchy, how does that effect the family structure? especially when that hierarchy is something usually considered Not For Kids?

a big thanks to my betas for this one, because they helped me pin down what i've been trying to work out for a while now--and this was about a year ago from time of posting, so 😬 bit overdue, here.

brief refresher on how d/s dynamics present in this world: kids present roughly around puberty, so tweens and early teens. very much living at home with parents, and too young for a real romantic relationship. i’ve established before that these dynamics are sort of fluid and don’t affect kids as much until their very late teens, because i believe in giving myself as much wiggle room to move around in as possible.

that doesn’t mean that it (bdsm, kink, etc) doesn’t come up. it’s biological. it has to be, on some level, dealt with. for the sake of simplicity, i'm only going to talk about the common/modern conventions here, since i still have to make a post about traditionalism and that is a whole other parenting style.

for the most part, the parents’ role here isn’t too different from our world. they have to teach their kids the right etiquette, safety, and pass on tips and tricks as they become relevant.

on occasion even teens still settling into their orientations will need to sub/dom, for their health and for learning purposes. any sexual scenes are illegal at this stage, and most physical discipline is at least frowned upon, so this mostly comes in the form of giving normal activities like chores and play a dynamic framing.

for submissive kids this is easier, but with doms and switches parents tend to play pretend rather than actually go into subspace, for safety reasons. siblings doing the same with one another is considered a normal part of development/fairly unconcerning, but also not appropriate past the early teens.

thus, familial roles are kept as separate as possible from dom/sub roles. for families who can afford to, it's preferable to outsource the bulk of this education where possible. schools and local city/private clinics will have occasional classes geared toward teens, and there are one-on-one tutoring options as well. minors can also legally enter contracts if they are older than fourteen and have a guardian's permission, and though it is usually frowned upon outside of traditionalist circles it is another option.

i'm still working out the particulars of the laws around dominance and submission, but regardless of what they end up being i imagine guardians would have more leeway with them, much like in other areas where parents have special privileges over their children. parents are also considered legally liable for any scene-gone-wrong type scenarios that may arise (within the family unit, not when it involves their child and unrelated partner(s)). this includes when the parent is the submissive in the scene or if siblings got into trouble by themselves.

however, once a minor is an adult or has bonded (permanently contracted), their family members become, legally speaking, like any other dom, sub, or switch to them, and lose all of those special privileges and liabilities.

🤲 Would you please share a snippet of a wip?

i was about to say “bold of you to assume i have a snippet prepared” bc i started a new job this month and my writing ability has absolutely tanked while i get used to it, but i rifled through my old docs a bit and found a doc titled “kid!flf!shinsou and erasermic,” while the fic itself is called “switched.”

“Shinsou,” he starts, “who taught you to kneel?”

He twitches again, violet eyes darting around like the answer is somewhere in his room. “I’m supposed to. This, this is what happens. When I hurt people.”

He holds himself coiled tight and miserable, his voice getting smaller and smaller until it almost doesn’t exist. It hurts to watch. Shouta breathes in and out, and starts to say something, but Hizashi gets there first.

“Listener, you didn’t hurt anyone. We do have to talk about what happened, later, but Shouta and I are both fine. Were you worried you hurt Shouta when I sent him away?”

Shinsou doesn’t say anything for a moment, staring at his lap, and Shouta thinks, That’s not it.

“I—no?” He looks up, long enough for them to see the tears in his eyes before he hides his face again. “Yes. I was—I don’t know.”

“It’s not a trick question,” Hizashi says gently. “We just want to know what’s going on.”

“I was bad,” Shinsou chokes out, so childlike and vulnerable that Shouta feels sick. “I’m sorry, I’m sorry and I won’t do it again, just don’t—please don’t send me back.”

The last part is just a whisper, like he can barely risk voicing it.

“Won’t do what again?” Shouta asks.

Shinsou bites his lip. For a beat, Shouta is afraid he’ll refuse to answer.

He mumbles, “M’ voice.”

<3

i can’t remember if i talked about it before, but the premise is that shinsou has been mislabeled as a sub-leaning switch to make him easier to control (quirk discrimination yay) which leads to a lot of abuse and neglect and gets him labeled as violent and disobedient when he’s actually just a dominant. then he lands in erasermic’s house <3

rereading this reminded me that i actually really like this fic. i think i need to rewrite most of what i have to slow down the pacing (story of my fuckin’ life), but i definitely want to finish it.

😈 Has there been a point in a story where you did something just to be playfully mean to your readers?

i don’t think so? i mean, i do think of you guys when i write, but i do things for myself first. i did take a little bit of glee in putting a funeral at the end of chapter three of FF, though :3

😅 What's a story or scene you've created that you're a smidge embarrassed exists?

aw yay! flfverse kiri my beloved. he’s just a silly guy. i definitely am really into the idea of a trans person who just doesn’t come out, for a long time or forever, even though of course his friends are supportive and society is making strides and i think the assumed happy ending of any trans narrative is coming out fully. but it doesn’t have to be.