#flammablematerials

once you create a media online, publicly, specifically with your own characters, they arent your characters anymore. you cant dictate what happens to them.

yes you created them and control canon, but fandom is notorious for being... fandom. you cant tame fandom. they will forever do what they want, because thats what makes it fun.

you can say that people shouldnt ship a child and their father, but dont expect them to follow it. yes, creators can have boundaries on what they dont want to see personally, but they shouldnt control the fans.

yes, i want to be abused more. it's none of your business why or what made me decide this. it's also not your business to assign me a title of whether i deserve what i have been through, how it's shaped me today, or if i should be hurt more than i already have.

it's not uncommon for trauma victims to have a want for more trauma, and i think it's idiotic that they have to constantly prefix this with "im not fetishizing it or glamorizing or romanticizing it" to avoid backlash whenever they talk about it. wouldn't this all be better if you stopped wasting energy on deciphering whether or not this person has "real trauma" or not and let them live their life in the way they desire?

and the second someone identifies as "transharmed", even if they did add the "not romanticizing/glamorizing/fetishizing" disclaimer, they get immediately labeled as someone faking, if they explain if they had past trauma or not.

"Despite knowing that relationships are destructive, we may continue demonstrating patterns of these types of relationships. We may be trying to ‘fix’ what happened in the past by recreating the trauma with new relationships, with some arguing that we have an innate desire to complete something which has already begun." from this article

"Common types of repetition compulsion include:

Repeating behaviors: Individuals can repeat certain behaviors that they may have repeated during the traumatic event for survival. Sometimes, these behaviors can present as a form of self-sabotage, such as seeking potentially abusive relationships.

Repeating situations: Individuals may repeat traumatic situations to gain insight into the actual event’s occurrence.

Re-enacting trauma: Individuals can re-enact trauma on a physiological, behavioral, or emotional level

...Acting as a victim: Learned helplessness can be an effect of earlier traumatic experiences.3 Sometimes, an individual might have learned early on that they could not depend on others to emotionally support them and may show up in adult relationships during a conflict with learned helplessness.

Acting as the perpetrator: The research is clear that individuals who commit violent crimes against others often have links to earlier instances of childhood physical or sexual abuse.3 Perpetrating against others may be motivated to feel powerful and overcome the sense of learned helplessness." - another article

"Unlike simply remembering a traumatic event, re-enactments concern involving oneself in a situation that recreates the trauma in their current life. For example, a woman who was abused by her father as a child may seek out partners as an adult who also abuse her. Re-enactments are a type of coping mechanism." - this article

being harmed / harmful is a trauma response. giving people a place to soothe those urges both consensually and with a safe person is much better than having them not express themselves, and potentially end up worse off somewhere else. the labels of transharm give those expirences a term, one that can be more intuitively understood by other folks.

hello, and welcome. you can call me red, arsyn, monoe, or marina! im omniromantic, aspec, and girlboy! i make subliminals, coin flags and terms, and rant sometimes. also yes, i am marina from termina, too. sit down with me, will you?

before i forget, here's my strawpage, and here's levi's—a common person you'll see around here—too.

im cisaudhd, cisbpd, cisplural, panracial, cisnpd, cisaspd, and probably more im forgetting.

im transharmed, transintersex, translingual, fictoreligious (alll-mer follower), and you can find more in #thefireilluminates on my page!

i am foxqueer, and i also am comp-c and anti-abuse (which should go without saying). pro let people do what they want as long as it doesn't unconsentually hurt others or others that cant consent, and don't like don't look.

i really like (love) my wife nyx, wdy, fear and hunger, yume nikki, touhou, writing, drawing, responding to anons, and learning!

INTP-T, choleric, enlightened soul on the cusp of changeling soul

i am very nervous when talking to others and have difficulty keeping up with them. please, please dont take me falling out of contact as something personal. i promise you if i have a problem with you i will say it.

my dms are open! contact me any day you want.

as for sourcemates / doubles, do be patient if you choose to recall source memories together; they don't come naturally or easy for me.

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