#flag tag

heya, folks. lilith of magical-mogai here, to talk about something i made. a flag, to be specific.

for the past four years i've struggled with the words lesbian and dyke. at first i felt connected to both! then dyke lost its appeal and i became just a lesbian, and i was... fine with it for a while, i think?

then about two years ago, i started to distance myself from the online queer community. i still had an off-and-on mogai hyperfixation, but i was just so sad, to put it bluntly. i couldn't find where i belonged, even in the community about belonging. even when i made my own labels, i'd never be able to check off all the tiny boxes that made me feel seen. i never was what i expected to be, in any way.

overall i started to slip from labels, as a whole.

i called myself a lesbian in front of my friends who i knew wouldn't get it, but in private i tried the words "queersbian", queer, "lesbiqueer", about every combination i could make without having to call myself a dyke.

then for a while, i just let the question go unanswered. what am i? gay, i guess? i think? i let it be a question, and i found comfort in that.

eventually i came back to the word dyke. and left. then came back again. and again. and again and again and again until i couldn't deny its presence in my identity anymore.

and even then i still did. so i called myself bi for a bit. tried it out, worked through the preconceptions i had of bisexuality, and tried to ignore the weird feeling it always left in my mouth to call myself bi.

i met other queer people in the real world. old trans people, those who dont call themselves anything, a lesbian married to a man, bi girls who only date men, trans men with husbands who call themselves straight, everyone who i at one point (shamefully) tried to recategorize in my brain to fit my view of the world, and i just accepted them as they were.

so eventually, i too tried to accept that i was just bi, but i realized that i was just... wrong. all of a sudden i knew that i was going off a label i THOUGHT should fit, not the one that did.

so i came back to dyke.

and i looked for a dyke flag, something to proudly display on my wall, but found lesbian flags. and gay flags. and queer flags. i didn't find anything i felt myself in.

so i made a flag.

using a light pink, purple, and blue color palette, and featuring two interlocking venus symbols, here it is. my dyke flag.

use it if you want, or don't. or design your own, or don't. make yourself feel seen however you need to.

so here it is. my dyke flag.

maybe in two years i'll come back and laugh and go "wow, she got it WRONG." but for now, here i am. here it is.

I made a flag Combo! of the Lithromantic and Cupioromantic flags. Because that's me <3

Cupioromantic: Does not experience Romantic Attraction but is open to or desires a Romantic Relationship

hey guys, i made age regressor and caretaker flags! been makin lots of headcanons about characters so i decided flags would be fun uwu

color meanings for regressor flag (left):

yellow: happiness

pink: affection and fun

white: innocence

blue: peace and calm

green: healing

color meanings for caretaker flag (right):

aqua: protection

yellow: friendship, people who have a platonic relationship with the person they care for

orange: happiness

pink: love, people who also have a romantic relationship with the person they care for

feel free to use these as long as you're not in the DNI, please give me credit though!!

BONUS: regressor + caretaker gang

Lesbian Flag Redesign 

I’ve talked in the past about how I don’t think it’s productive to redesign the lesbian flag, as I felt it was just delaying the widespread recognition of a lesbian flag n general. However after a long discussion with my sister, who is also a lesbian but not a fan of the pink lesbian flag, we really weighed out the pros and cons of keeping that flag vs. any of the redesigned flags. 

The problem with a lot of the Lesbian Flag Designs I’ve seen floating around is that they’re either problematic in origin/execution, the meanings of the colors where chosen as a second thought, or they just plain and simple don’t look good. 

Now while I very much don’t expect this flag design to get much recognition, My Sister and I still very much wanted to try our hand at designing our own lesbian flag. 

We started with what we wanted the colors to mean, and then went from there choosing the best colors to signify those meanings, and here is what we came up with: 

Lavender - History of the Lesbian Community

Pink - Love for Women

Yellow - Freedom

White - Gender non Comformity

Green - Healing 

Blue - Serenity

Purple - Our Community As It Stands Today. 

This flag was designed by both @womanlymuppet and I, so please let us now what you think! and if you like it, share it! use it! have fun with it!