#five positives

Life is not perfect. (Yes, I know I’m stating the VERY obvious. You’re probably already rolling your eyes. 😄) It is far from being so. But it is liveable (is that a word?!). We don’t even have to wonder how we’ve survived all these years. Sometimes, all it takes are a few good thoughts and a fresh perspective of things. Sometimes, all it takes is us choosing not to let things get the best of us.

In my case, I always try to tell myself to keep calm, and I repeat a few lines in my head. Here are a few of those things I tell myself in different circumstances:

1. When something I want to last long, abruptly ends…

“It might not have lasted, but at least I got to experience it for a while. I guess, it really wasn’t for me to keep.”

2. When something bad (but petty) happens…

“It could’ve been worse…”

3. When I feel like nothing’s going good for me in every aspect of my life…

“Better things are coming. God has a plan.”

4. When I lose touch of people I care about…

“Maybe they really aren’t meant to stay. Thanks for stopping by, anyway.” (oh hey, that rhymed!)

5. And of course, in all circumstances…

THANK YOU, FATHER GOD! :)

Thanks for making me think hard, thatsminethankyou.

1. I don’t buy many gifts for people but when I do, I really do put a lot of thought into it. You may not get it on time but when you do get it, I promise you’ll love it.

2. I try to call people instead of texting. Not always. But fairly often. The other person may not answer and that’s fine. Texting is easier, I’ll admit. But phone calls seem a lot more personal and rewarding. Plus sometimes I just want to hear your voice.

3. I’m funny. I feel funny typing that. Almost like I’m bragging. But I can make people laugh, that has always been easy for me. I exaggerate stories sometimes and I can be a little loud. But I really feel good when I can see I made someone chuckle. Even if it was brief.

4. I'm a loyal friend. I didn't really realize that about myself until recent years. When you're my person, I want you for life. I'm not about these quick, convenient friendships. I'm in it for the challenging long haul. And I'll do what I can to make you know that.

5. I like my voice. That's something past me never thought future me would ever admit. As a child everyone thought I was sick. As an adult, people always think I'm a smoker or I'm sick. But it's deep and it's raspy and it sounds awesome when I AM sick and try to sing "Smelly Cat."

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I am a great cook. Even though my husband does most of the cooking nowadays, we both agree that I'm the better cook. As he likes to put it - "I warm up food. You make a meal."

I am sexy. It took me almost 30 years to appreciate myself, and now that I've got it figured out, I'm just going to say it. I am not society's definition of beautiful. If you asked 1000 people to rate me, I'm pretty confident it would result in a low score. But I don't care what they think of me. I don't need affirmation from any man, woman, or child that I am beautiful. Because I see that I am beautiful. I'm gorgeous. And I'm fucking sexy as hell. I'm not going to measure my self worth by what a bunch of people I'll never meet, who don't have a clue as to who I truly am, have to say. I refuse to let a bunch of crude strangers define me as a person based solely on my weight, my facial features, my hair (and yes, that includes leg hair sometimes. I go a couple weeks without shaving and still wear capris to a store. I don't care). My self worth comes from me and me alone. 

I am a great writer. I love the way I phrase things, the flow of words describing my stories. I enjoy reading my works of fiction.

I am my husband's definition of perfection. I know this sounds to be a bit contradictory to #2, but let me explain. I spent my life searching for my prince charming (I've always been in love with fairytales and Snow White was my favorite). We met in the strangest of ways, fell head over heels, and here we are 5 years later still just like newlyweds. This man treats me like a princess and has completely defined love for me. I adore him. I love my hubby more than I love God himself. And when I'm in the middle of the worst depression I've ever experienced, or simply having a low self esteem day, he shows me in countless ways that I am everything he has ever wanted. I love this man more than my kids and my own life combined. And he thinks I'm perfect. It's hard not to believe I'm gorgeous when he's the one telling me.

1. I am a very pretty princess.

2. I am extremely empathetic, and when I know there is a possibility something may hurt/insult/embarrass someone else, I do whatever I can to avoid that something from happening.

3. Sometimes, I can be quite artistic.

4. My hair is the perfect color.