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Pile 1. Pile 2. Pile 3.

LIFE FOR YOU & HOW YOU SHOW UP AS A BOY MOMMY

Pile 1.

PROTECTIVE MOMMY🛡️

Life with your son is lively, protective, and full of energy. You show up as the mom who teaches him strength, but also how to use it wisely. He sees you as his shield and his biggest cheerleader whether it’s sports, school, or just life. You’ll be the mom who says, “Try again, you’ve got this” while also being the one people know not to mess with. Your son grows up bold, outspoken, and loyal because he watched you fight for him every step of the way. Life is bold, loud, and full of energy. He sees you as his hero, and you show up as the strong, protective mom who always has his back. He grows up confident, playful, and fearless knowing you’ll fight for him.

Pile 2.

GENTLE MOMMY 😇

Life with your son is tender, safe, and emotionally rich. You show up as the mom who creates peace for him, teaching that softness is not weakness. You’ll be the type to cuddle him, listen deeply, and guide him with quiet wisdom. He grows up kind, respectful, and protective of others because he learned how love should feel from you. People will notice how emotionally intelligent he is and that comes straight from you being a soft but steady mom! Life feels calm, sweet, and deeply bonded. Your son softens you, and you teach him kindness and respect. He’s affectionate and caring, knowing love isn’t weakness but strength—because that’s how you’ve raised him; I feel with this pile is truly lucky to have been blessed with not only a husband/baby father who actually wants to be a daddy! i feel this person wanted to be a dad for a long time, this man didn’t grow up with a father or had one who wasn’t emotionally there so he craved and yearned for the the day he became a daddy to a little boy, this man will be emotionally available and a perfect role model for you baby boy & you all will be great parents !

Pile 3.

EMPOWERING + INSPIRING MOMMY 🥇

Okay Mrs. Six figures ! I feel this pile will be the GO GETTERS & HEAD OF THE PACK IN THE HOUSE HOLD! I feel you won’t be the mommy with traditional roles in your household like as a women you will take out trash & the men clean & cook type of dynamic but overall I feel you will body Mother hood almost like you were born for this shif yk ! Life with your son is adventurous, full of lessons, and meant to stretch both of you. You show up as the mom who pushes him to dream bigger, think differently, and never settle. He’ll test boundaries because he gets his attitude from you, but you’ll channel it into teaching him independence and discipline. He grows up ambitious, brave, and proud of himself because you never let him shrink. You’re the mom who reminds him, “You can, because you’re mine.” Life is adventurous, resilient, and inspiring. You raise him to dream big and stand tall. Sometimes he tests your patience, but you channel it into guidance. He grows into a leader who always remembers his mom’s wisdom.

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Hi my name is Special, I hope you enjoyed my post

Somehow, I have a 2 month old.

This is simultaneously the longest and fastest adventure of my life. Still feel like pregnancy was the shortest whirlwind while maternity leave has been like watching paint dry.

Things are getting more normal. My husbands anxiety of taking the baby out lessens. We've walked around the mall, downtown and ate in a restaurant for the first times with no incidents. My husbands even slightly unpacked the diaper bag so it isnt so full.

I gave away all the newborn clothes I was gifted as we've grown out of them. Was going to wait til the little guy outgrew his 0-3mo clothes but somebody on fb was asking for donations. Otherwise, Coop has doubled in size, he likes mirrors but we are slowly introducing toys as hes becoming more aware and also more talkative. He got his first set of vaccines yesterday too. He also has a gnarly umbilical hernia the doc said will go away but its grossing me out. He still wakes up multiple times at night but he's polite about it. He sleeps in his crib more but we got a 3 in one crib that "grows" with your kid and I'm afraid we may need to go to the next size soon. I have no space for this lol. I had to buy him 3-6 month onsies because he's getting too big and Im trying to get through these size 1 diapers because Im sure we need to go up a size too. Just growing growing. Its honestly hurting me a bit to nurse because he doesnt fit in my arms too well.

adult-wise, we are still house hunting and I dropped to part time at work but dont return for a few more weeks. Ive been trying to go to the gym daily to feel accomplished. I'm pretty proud of how my body looks after having a kid but theres definitely been some shape changes. My old clothes are a bit small. But I'm only 10lbs heavier which I think it quite a flex and acceptable.

Trying to also doodle in the ipad but Im still mainly stuck on doomscrolling tiktok. I feel bad because I had really planned on reading books during my maternity leave but Ive failed that. Also, my husbands sister is supposed to come visit in October which is crazy that its not that far away.

At 36 weeks, I was already 5 cm dilated. Everyone was convinced my baby was coming early. I felt so ready — physically, emotionally, mentally. But at my 37-week checkup, I was told I had gone backwards to 4 cm. I didn’t even know that could happen. I felt crushed, confused, and honestly just done with being pregnant.

They scheduled me to be induced on July 8th, so I was trying to be patient and hang in there. But baby had his own plans.

Then in the early hours of Saturday, July 5th, around 2 a.m., I started having horrible contractions. Not the cute kind. The real, painful, can’t-breathe-through-it kind. I climbed into a warm bath hoping it would calm things down, labored there for about an hour, but nope — the pain only got worse. The bath didn’t help at all.

I was exhausted, so I told myself to just try to go back to sleep — even though my body was screaming. By 6 a.m., my mom (who I was staying with) saw how much pain I was in and decided it was time. She took me to the hospital.

They checked me…

7 cm. I couldn’t believe it. I went from 4 to 7 on my own. Finally, progress. The doctor decided to break my water right then and there.

I labored naturally with no epidural — that was something I had set my mind on from the beginning. I did get IV pain meds, but they honestly didn’t do much for the pain. They just made me feel loopy, like I was floating in and out of my own body.

I labored until about 12:50 p.m., and then I started pushing. I gave it everything I had, At 1:41 p.m., my beautiful baby boy was born.

7 lbs 12 oz, 18 ½ inches long.. 💙 I pushed for just under an hour.

But the delivery wasn’t easy.

I ended up needing two internal incisions, and they had to cut me to make sure he didn’t get stuck. Then I started hemorrhaging. I lost one full liter of blood. It got really serious, really fast. The doctor was struggling to get the bleeding under control. They had the OR on standby and a blood transfusion ready. My fiancé’s face… my mom’s face… I’ll never forget the fear I saw in their eyes. It shattered me.

I was terrified. In the moment, I didn’t even care that I had just had a baby — all I could think about was if I was going to be okay, if I was going to make it home with him.

But somehow, some way… the doctor stopped the bleeding. He saved me. I didn’t have to go into surgery. I didn’t need the transfusion.

Now here we are. My baby is 11 days old today. I still look at him and can’t believe he’s mine. I still look at myself and can’t believe I survived that.

And now — somehow, some way — here we are. My baby is 11 days old today. I still can’t believe it sometimes. I carried him. I brought him into the world. I still look at myself and can’t believe I survived that.

Birth isn’t always peaceful or empowering or easy. Sometimes it’s messy, traumatic, and terrifying. Sometimes it pushes you to the edge — emotionally, physically, spiritually. it also brings you the kind of love that cracks your soul wide open. But no matter how hard, how messy, how traumatic — I’d do it again for him.

I'm 18..19 in November

I'm pregnant with my first baby

I'm engaged! 5 years to my bestfriend!

I'm a high-school graduate, taking a gap year

I want to go to school to be a school teacher!

I'm learning how to do this mom thing before my little man comes!

Trying to break generational trauma. To be better for my son