Often the conversation that need to be had is the one we dance around and mismanage because of how we feel about it or what we fear the consequences to be. . When we can have fierce conversations through vulnerability, compassion and clarity we offer the other the opportunity to make a decision for themselves and we stop trying to unconsciously control or manipulate others. . The key is speak in terms of "I" statements, be clear about how you feel and what you are asking/inviting/requesting and listen to their experience of that without defending or demeaning. Actually listen to understand, not respond. . Let there be room for both perspectives. That doesn't mean you have to abandon yours, though hopefully this approach will expand it and theirs. #notaguarentee . #fierceconversations #coaching #communication (at Dublin, Ireland) https://www.instagram.com/p/B9MCUKzntO1/?igshid=gyj1h458ylq7