#fiance posting

One moment I think about a lot is actually from when we first started dating.

I can’t recall the exact conversation, but I remember he had used the R slur very casually either with me or with his friends.

And I said to him, “I don’t like the R slur because as an autistic person, it hurts me a lot. It is a Harmful word especially coming from a neurotypical/allistic person.”

And he listened to me and said “Oh. Im so sorry. I promise I won’t use it again.”

And genuinely… he’s never used that word ever again.

In fact- I think he told his friends that they shouldn’t use it either which I didn’t even ask him to do.

I just told him I didn’t like when he used it. And he just… stopped.

I think about this moment a lot because it’s such a small thing… but it’s also not.

I expected pushback, I expected an argument, I expected to have to give him time to change…

But he just… did it.

And this change, it’s small right? It’s an easy change to make to not say slurs… but it’s such a testament to who my fiance is.

Not only did he not question that I was hurt, he recognized it and apologized immediately.

And, he also changed his behavior knowing it was harmful to others- especially a marginalized group.

Looking at the man he is today- a feminist, anti racist, a communist, a passionate advocate for human rights, god- he’s even a vegetarian…

He makes me want to be better every single day because he genuinely wants to be a good human being.

I am so proud of the man he’s become and I’m so excited to see how he will grow in the future.

I was scared to marry someone I met at 19, it felt too young.

But, it’s the greatest gift.

He got to watch me drink my first beer. He got to watch me vote for president for the first time. He got to see me get many jobs and watched me get the job I have now- the longest time I’ve ever spent at a place.

I got to watch him visit the USA for the first time, I got to bring him to an American bar when he turned 21.

I got to cheer him on every single step he took.

js found out my fiancé is only one apple tall wow

@puppyy-lasagna

my fiance: pretends to be dead

me, kisses them back to life: lmao just me making out with your corpse I guess

them: necrophilia alive and well

them:

me:

them: WAIT NO THATS REALLY FUNNY

and then she asks @freakishcowboy “(name) do you want to watch five nights at freddy’s?”

and he says “of course i do.” because he loves her probably just as much as he loves me. every single night

so im asleep. almost. seconds away. the mattress is cradling me. and i hear this little voice. creepy as all hell, think ive been transported to a horror movie with a kid ghost.

i just had. a super big talk with my partner n it was. a lot. mostly about kink stuff, n i realised that he has grown less interested in being called daddy at all outside of sex and even during sex is sometimes too much for him. over the course of our relationship

and i don’t blame him at all, there have been a lot of external things recently that have led to him having his kinks exposed to a number of people that was really traumatic for him, but it was part of why it was so important to have a chat about it.

but i realised that even tho all the other stuff is okay, i just need to wait until my birthday/“special occasions” to call him daddy and it. really hurt because i didn’t realise that’s how it was and was hoping it could be a more frequent thing that just wasn’t happening because i felt nervous about it

but um. yeah he’s really not that into it anymore and needs to have some time until he can think about being into it. which is so okay and i don’t want to push him on his boundaries and and i appreciate him for so much more than just what i get out of sex

but i also am going to edit my bio and start tagging posts as #fiance posting instead of what it currently is

and we’re probably going to have another chat tomorrow about it but i’m. really upset for the moment n might either go really hard with it here as an outlet or completely withdraw from engaging with certain posts, im not really sure and can’t even decide how i feel right now