#feelingunheard

I don’t feel emotionally safe with him, and it often feels like he’s not on my side or prioritizes me. His tone when we argue is hurtful, and he lacks empathy toward me—after a fight, he’ll act like nothing happened, even laughing while watching TV. I’m not sure if he lacks emotional depth or if he's being spiteful. When I express that I’m hurt, he doesn’t show sympathy or empathy.

He often uses my hurt and past trauma against me to make a point, without understanding how wrong that is. Every disagreement becomes a tit-for-tat situation, which is exhausting. I don’t feel appreciated, and he doesn’t give me credit where it’s due. When I bring up my pain, he dismisses it and flips the conversation to focus on himself. I often feel gaslit.

He’s told me he doesn’t think he needs to change or grow, and he’s not afraid of losing me. He even said that if I were to leave, it would be my fault for giving up on us. After I explained what’s been bothering me, he dismissed it, suggesting I might be depressed because I stopped going to the gym, rather than acknowledging his role in our issues. He continues to deny that anything is wrong on his end.

I feel powerless and overwhelmed by the same unresolved issues. I feel unheard, misunderstood and emotionally exhausted.