#family garbage

I had a serious family emergency with a relative that is supposed to be close to me but is not. It's bad. But I can't do shit because I'm estranged from that chunk of my family (they are slur-screaming Conservatives). My mother told me shit that happened and my heart hurts for what they must be going through, but I can do literally nothing.

Basically, my mom and him kinda neglect my youngest sister and she's not on top of her stuff (which, I don't blame her for. She is 19 and doesn't know any better and is learning the hard way, like I did). And basically, because last year she had trouble doing her FAFSA (I'm pretty sure my mom lied on all of our FAFSAs because I'm pretty sure she's lied on her taxes) since my mom didn't give her any info for it, my other sister ended up helping her very late, way after it was due and she didn't get nearly as much money as she normally does. This ended up meaning she had an ~$8000 balance for Fall semester. I quickly took out a parent plus loan for her despite not being a parent, but now I have a loan in my name. My step dad said he would pay it and then.... stopped answering any of my calls about anything for months.

Turns out that I THOUGHT the loan was to cover spring semester, but it was actually left over balance from the fall. Now she has another balance for the spring. We managed to get her FAFSA in on time (guessing on a lot of info since my mom was lying to us "idk I didn't do my 2020 taxes" uh huh. Yeah sure.), but she can't register for fall classes until this semester is paid.

My step dad of course hasn't been on top of this so didn't know. And my mom just neglects my sister so she doesn't care. Now I'm getting 8 calls back to back of him angry that I'm not answering right away? It was midday Tuesday and voicemails were like "am I blocked? I don't know why I would be" because I kept sending them to voicemail while working and having my therapy session. But the call last night around 3am (thank god I starting putting my phone on do not disturb at 1am until 8:30) was him crying saying I'm turning my back on her etc. And a text that says "xxx been working hard I can't get a loan please help xxx she can't stop please I will pay xxx will pay if I don't why are you doing this to her."

My sister hasn't asked me about this. She likely doesn't know my step dad is doing this to me.

Wednesday: Oh! You're coming to town this weekend, you say? Well, thanks for giving me a couple of days notice, instead of calling me when you're ten minutes from my house, I guess.

Friday: WHERE is all this dust coming from, we have vacuumed our house SEVENTEEN TIMES and we're still finding more.

Saturday: Probably going to hear from them at some point...I wonder if they're going to want to come here today...or if they have other plans, and won't come until tomorrow...maybe I need to vacuum again...ugh, my life is such hopeless miserable chaos, I don't want anybody to ask me what I've been up to lately or how I'm doing...is that them calling? texting? No, it isn't.

Sunday: Yes, you can come over today. Eleven is fine. Yes, we can wait until 11:30. Or eleven-forty-five. Really, whenever you get here. We'll just be sitting around or pacing fretfully and unable to do anything useful. We'll make some soup or something. Oh, and then everybody's going to go have dinner at my brother's house? Sure, we'll be there too. Yes, we have jumper cables and can probably get your car started again.

Monday: Okay, we've gotten all the leftover floorboards from the house construction out of the basement and staged them so they can be conveniently loaded into your vehicle. Hope they turn out to work for your project! Oh, ouch. Let me get you a piece of ice for that. No, keep the ice on your hand, and the rest of us will finish loading the boards. Bye! Right, nice to catch up and all! Sorry you never managed to get that burner phone working. Yeah, technology has never been your favorite thing, I know.

So my uncle didn't get murdered by the cartel, but he had a "very scary night"

Not sure if there's a correct emotional response to this.