manifesto for a friendship that will ruin me:
1. Access: i do not want to be accessible all the time. social media overwhelms me and the open access concept is for academic journals, not for maya. politicizing me is policing my being. stop.
2. Time: the concept of time in real-world versus the concept of time in my brain differs greatly. i do not realise movement of time—and when in my dream/space/recharging mode, time does not exist. now, i realise friendship exists in real-world time. i realise at times i have to get out of this dream/space mode: but it is a privilege i give to you if i do it. it is not a right. you may think it is a right to ask, as a friend, and at times, it is quite alright. but you do this once or twice a week, and expect me to be the container to your anxieties. i am not your therapist, i am not your heart. you are running away from yourself. you are scared. do not fill your fears onto me. this is too much. thinking you deserve my friendship on the get go is extremely presuming.
3. Priorities/Hierarchy/Boundaries: priorities; i need to set them, i do not care if you do not believe in it. i believe in it, because i rarely prioritise myself. and some relationships get prioritised over another, i’m sorry. i know this does not go well with your socialist mode of being, but again, stop politicizing the human heart. not everything is made to be shared equally. i believe in monogamous, one-to-one tendencies. this is all my energy allows at a time. i will give you time, when i am ready. i know this creates hierarchy, which you hate, and i know it boundaries have to be instilled, which again, you hate. our values are not the same in this, and this needs to be understood.
4. Modes of being/reception to it: (tbd)
5. Modes of communicating/reaction to it: (tbd)
6. Conclusion: You are Overwhelming my Being and i need for you to Stop. you give your anxieties to me and create new ones within me at the same time. STOP. stop making me victimize myself. you are being extremely abusive yet acting up like a victim with your loudness.