#expatmum

Divorce, whether you loved him and are completely, utterly devastated and/or you couldn’t stand the sight, never mind the stench of him and couldn’t wait to flee for the hills, the only common denominator here is – clearly – how much DIVORCE actually sucks b*lls!

You blindly think, “oh yeah, I’ll grab a lawyer, preferably the best in town, for the least amount of dough. I’ll tell the judge ‘MY’ story, ah sure he’ll be sure to understand, in fact, he/she will lap your every single word up with nothing but genuine and sincere sympathy for all the hardship you have been thrown – NO! Forced! into at the hands of your grotesque excuse for a…A…Ahem! Soon-to-be ex-husband!

Unfortunately, life doesn’t always go the way you want, nor does it tend to go the way you would like to plan it to go and sometimes it doesn’t even steer in a somewhat favorable direction whatsoever. Divorce is many things, one being a constant reminder that when communication goes south, and bitterness seeps in, human beings are pretty darn cruel creatures. You’ll be surprised and you’ll surprise…it is just the nature of the beast.

I have compiled a little ‘helpful’ list, things that I have practiced over the past two years.

1.     Wait, wait and wait before you respond, learn not to react. Or, if you must (which I do, react in a quiet place where no one is around to disagree with you) You most likely don’t need rationalization…especially when you are completely irrational.

2.     Know one thing when it comes to divorce and finances – lawyers need money to argue on your behalf. Time is money and time racks up along with the money so choose your battle wisely.

3.     Expect the worst, actually visualize the worst most painful things that your ex could possibly say about you. Keep these thoughts in your mind before a hearing that way when he/she expels their verbal cr*p it doesn’t hit you quite as hard.