I am not an object for my boss to stretch and mold. She has been trying to do this since she first realized that I am my own person.
Indeed, I am my own person. But she refuses to acknowledge and respect that.
For each instance of engagement that involves her trying to control and change me, there is a strike against my being. I feel less safe around her, and she loses buckets of my trust. She needs to understand why I take measures to regain my safety. This is still a job, and I still have and want to do my best work. But that canāt happen if I donāt feel safe.
I understand she may treat other team members this same way, and they may not appear to be affected the way I am affected. Or respond the way I respond. But that doesnāt matter. Again, I am my own person. We are all our own individual persons. Can she respect that?
I choose to bring my WHOLE SELF to work. At this current point in humanityās evolution, doing what I do is not popular. Because it is not safe. It takes strength to have this level of vulnerability at work, but someoneās gotta lead the way.
AĀ group of people who work together cannot be a team, unless each individual can be their own person, contributing their own gifts to the overall team goal. A group of slaves and non-persons cannot be a team. Thatās just slavery. And slavery is wrong.
