You probably did get along with Ethulai. I can totally see it. I was once friends with them but they were always talking shit and negative in private and I had to cut ties with them. They probably couldn't hide their true self from other staff; I bet they were a mod because they got to lord over little children.
I haven't had too many encounters with Ethulai, but the ones I did were always pleasant, and never about negative things. I don't claim to know her personally, because really, I never did, but from what I've seen from her she was involved, pleasant when necessary, and did a hell of a damn good job as a Mod.
I'm not saying she was the most perfect person out there. We all have our negative sides and we all have shit that upsets us and that we want to complain about, and she's no different I imagine. But I do hold a great deal of respect for her. I'm sorry if your encounters were not as great, but I'm not going to slaughter her name with something that both, I haven't seen, and for something I think everyone is guilty of at some point.
I don't think "lording" over a bunch of kids was her intent, it's just something that comes with the job, whether you look at it as another way of saying what a Mod's job is, or the insult it's self.