#energydynamics

The Art of Energy Seduction Mastering: The Human Energy Vampire Within You The Art of Energy Seduction is a fascinating topic that has caught the attention of many people in recent years. It’s a powerful tool that can be used to attract positive energy and repel negative energy. Mastering this art requires a deep understanding of human energy and its workings. One of the most critical aspects of…

Hello, that seems very formal, hi, hello, 

I’ve learned so much about myself and partnership through your reflection.

I feel into the energy of what works and what doesn’t. How out of alignment with love certain things are for me. I guess “romantic relationships” are triggering for most humans.

I got triggered, yes. I am practicing awareness and grace for myself when this happens. I do not feel sorry for myself. I mean, I do for a hot second, go to the blame, the “how dare YOU DO this to ME” bs, but that works against my intention and alignment. Victim, goodbye, bitch. I want to be triggered sometimes so I can move the shit that isn’t me, anything that is not Love. It is revealed within the trigger and therefore can be healed. The pattern that is activated through the trigger is not me in my fullest sense, but it can help me grow. 

I am love.

You were triggered, too. You did begin pulling back, and when that happened I went harder. I got my claws out and grasped, grasped, grasped and of course, that causes running.

I didn’t know at the time, I couldn’t see it, but now I do. I can feel it. The energetic cause and effect. Detaching from the story and seeing the story from the eyes of truth.

This is part of beginning to really understand and know yourself in these different spaces of play. Understanding and knowing another person. Of course, you ran when you were being chased. That’s what our fight or flight system is programmed to do. Especially if we have been hurt in a similar situation. 

It’s funny. People(ahem, me!) used to do that on the playground; chase the boys. And the boys would always run. It was a fun game. Eventually, I would catch them and maybe kiss them, but that’s another story…one about boundaries, hehe.

My intention is to move from my heart, so that shit won’t fly anymore. That’s not from my heart, to chase, to squeeze. My heart wants to dance. To feel the rhythm of the moment, to be in harmony with all that is here. To be a point of peace. To radiate love.

I wasn’t doing that with you after a while. I was in my pattern. Overthinking and spinning into mania. “She’s a maniac, maaaaniac!”

The energy that works in moving things forward in business, as a leader, does not work in the space of partnership. This is an interesting insight on a dynamic some powerful women carry over in relationships. It’s time to release that junk, probably for all of us, because healthy relationships are important. Learning to cede the power struggle and just love is scary for the mind. That’s my intention. 

I saw the pattern way more quickly this time than I ever have, and that’s such good news. Like, alert the media for the progress news. 

Is this something that we could move beyond together? These patterns of fear, me getting my claws out, you shutting down? This is a common energetic dynamic in relationships but it has got to go, in the individual’s world and the world around us. Let’s not be at war with ourselves or each other. 

I think of the Beatles song, “Lay down your arms, and surrender to me...” Some beings (Lennon/McCartney, George Harrison?) do understand and practice surrendering the struggle. Gotta be willing to surrender it. I am willing. 

What if we learned how to speak to that energy, speak to move it, to open and be in the juicy place more often? Grow together? Move beyond, together? Cultivate the authentic connection as souls and humans, practicing compassion and patience. Expanding as individuals and, together?

How beautiful it is to play with these things with another. We are made aware of things much more quickly. That’s why honest, open relationships are so important! It’s like a big mirror held up to your face and I guess you can look away, but it’s really cool to look directly into it, to be like, wow, I see that now. Thank you, mirror.

The mirror of living always wants us to be polished from the inside out. Get out your soul Windex, kids.

I ask Spirit, “take me, show me, heal me,” and good lord it happens when I ask from my heart. When I really want to be healed, I am healed. Sometimes we hold on to the junk because it still serves us in some way. I’m not interested in that. Letting it go now. 

Spirit, give me the courage and discernment to build the muscle to move beyond. The courage to let go and hold lightly. Open my heart to the highest compassion for myself and the world around me. 

Committed love provides space to build the muscle to move beyond the limits of our stories. To heal. To show up beyond our minds for another. To show up in our hearts. To forgive ourselves and our partner when that isn’t the case (we’re still human and it can get messy). To commit to seeing each other not in fake conditional cheerleader infatuation (that doesn’t last, boo), but in the light of truth, speaking it and being it gently. To embody the energy of love and partnership. Forgiveness. Do be do be do. Be be be be be.

It takes two to dance this dance in partnership, yo. It requires trust. Heart. Courage. Taking responsibility for the energy you bring to the table. I’ve never done it before.

I know I show up in my heart in the beginning of most things. I don’t try or force, I play.  That is why people fall in love with me very quickly. ;) jk, but really sorta, yes exactly.  That’s great, it gives my ego a big ol’ boost, but when I begin to care deeply and move beyond what I’ve known with romance specifically, the squeeze happens, abandonment/codependence is triggered, shit. I freeze and squeeze and then I am in my mind. Nobody likes that, including me. My analytical, I’m the boss, make it happen energy takes over because it feels safer to my mind.

Ain’t nobody got time for that. Naw, dude. It doesn’t feel good in my heart or body!

I’m playing with seeing it, learning to breathe into that juicy, loving, liquid fairy energy that is me at my best. Also, allowing space for that old energy to clear from my body. Breathing, breathing, breathing, allowing, being. That feels the best to me. RELAXING into my heart and into the delicious moment.

Wow, all caps seems aggressive when I’m talking about relaxing. ;)

Relaxing and allowing is the only way to serve in the way I want to, in partnership, in art, in my healing work, in the world. It’s self-serving, too, because it feels sooo sooo sooo good. Unconditional.

You know, growing up (and let’s be honest, until a few days ago) I used to think being neurotic was sexy. I love the movie Annie Hall, I wanted to be Annie. I leaned into being complicated (I mean it wasn’t that hard). I think/know some of my drama is practiced, I am an actress after all. But little Haley didn’t understand the whole “la di dah” story being told in that movie. Also, Woody Allen? BOY, BYE.

I want to put my energy into playing with moving beyond and feeling into the juicy love, to cultivate and nourish it every day. Especially if/when the mind comes up. I choose to put my energy into opening my heart.

That feels really good. 

I am so grateful for this new awareness. I had no idea I was still telling a story that was limited in this area until I did. I mean, I did know but was still getting some attention from it, some illusion of control. Yikes.  I'm sure humans can relate. Using worn out muscles that do not serve what my heart and soul want, thank you and goodbye.  All my heart wants to do is love. 

Friend, if you had not spoken such truth, and if I had not been praying and asking for it… I’m just in awe of the opening. Grateful. Every damn time. Energy is amazing and never lies.

I know I’m a deep thinker and feeler. When it’s out of control, OUCH. When I get in my way, WATCH OUT. When I step aside and use it to take responsibility for my experience, ask challenging questions and let the energy of all that is flow, it finds solutions, it creates, it heals, it transforms, it is. I get to feel into when it’s serving me and others and when it’s not. Wow. That’s my forever game; opening, relaxing, opening, allowing love, love, love, love through tension, through pain, through challenges; open, open, open. Gentle, now. Using my mind in service of my heart (not the other way around like our culture might teach).

Dharma, baby. 

Unlearnin’ the patterns and being the thing. The thing is always love.

I believe in love.  I believe love is transformative. I want and believe in authentic connection. I am love.

I pray to get and stay out of my own way and let Love lead in every moment, in every space.

Thank you for the space to play, see, and be, friend. Thank you. So it is.

Being the thing,

have you ever had that resolved thought when listening to the lyrics of a song? in which thought you may have reasoned yourself into accepting a mismatch between your own beliefs or feelings and the words of the song, by thinking something like, “well, the way the song makes me feel or what it reminds me of is what matters. i can still enjoy it” and in so realizing the true meaning and importance of the song, you transformed it into something meaningful and enjoyable to you, rather than something displeasing or imperfect.

              i feel there is a reflection seen in this transformative thought scenario of a simple but powerful idea that can be essential in life. this idea is that any given moment, or circumstance in life, or even larger scale reality, is like that song. it is up to you to be dissatisfied or insulted or upset by the situation, or to look at it differently and understand it as a tool to you can use to learn, grow, reflect, persist and expand in satisfaction, acceptance, excitement and contentment.

  the truly exquisite reality of living as a conscious being is that you have the power to chose your reality, and to give yourself permission to feel good about any circumstance in your life, and understand that event as part of your journey through and into what you most desire. what is truly important and influential in your life is the energy you emit and reflect at any given moment – the frequency that you resonate with in response to your life circumstance – your moment here and now.

                        once you are able to realize and recognize your self-empowering higher mind and allow it to become a tool in your life by recognizing these things, you will begin to feel and witness your highest excitement approaching and growing, and your contentment with life ground in your being. not only this, but you will also overcome your physical mind’s tendency to worry, to distress, to resist a situation or circumstance. you will find that the less you worry, the less unpleasant or undesired occurrences you will call into your life by giving your attention to them. you will instead leave room in your mind to call in the things you do desire and intend, and allow for you attention to focus on those things and your imagination will no longer be wasted on anxiety. things will then begin to fall into place and you will be freed from the vicious cycle of worry and crisis.

              you have all the tools you need to create the results you want, create the representations of your highest intention and highest desire. it is your choice, your authority, your responsibility, to take charge of your life and your reality. when you find yourself slipping into worry and anxiety, remind yourself to focus your attention to the here and now, this very instant. pay close attention to your breath, the sound, the feeling, the thought passing through your mind right now. do not resist it, just let it be, and then redirect your attention to your desire and intention, the positive outlook that is necessary for your projection into the future you wish to live. 

it may not come easy at first, it may feel like a battle with your own mind and thoughts. and, of course, it is up to you to change the way you think for the better, and without your willingness, determination and desire to do so, it will not happen. when it's difficult, do not let yourself get sucked into the negative spiral.