#eldritchdesires

Like, I feel so cring for this, but, my mental state rn is NOT normal at the moment. Not normal by human standards anyway.

99% of my thoughts right now do not seem human in anyway. I'm genuinely embarrassed to be even posting this.

Erm, fellas, is it normal (it's not) for your entire mind to just be wanting a den and a Mate and to just- IDK, MAN. Not be human. I can't fully explain it. Um,...

Yeah, this post officially does NOT exist.

Having a Pack, and a Mate.

And, we'd like, go on hikes together and visit creeks together, and we could cozy up in dens & nests together. We could scent each other and sleep pile. It'd just be awesome.

That's it

NEED

I miss playing as a lynx and hunting hares =( I miss treking through the snow and hearing the crunch it made.

I miss it =(

Sadly, I can't get it on my phone rn, my parents won't let me, & I fear that I may be unable to recover my acc to get back my data.

I don' wanna have to start from scratch AGAIN.

Courtships themselves are typically meant to run for 6 months with the end goal being Mating and/or marriage. However, courting partners can be together (without Bonding and/or marriage) for as long as they'd like before and/or after courtship.

I came up with this with only two partners in mind, so I'll go over that first, and then attempt the concept with more than two. Gotta look out for any non-monogamous micepals =3c

How it works is that there's supposed to be six major dates or outings during which six gifts are given by one partner to the other. Of course, there can and should be more than six outings/dates. But, the goal is to have one major date each month of courtship where gifts are received (gifts can be given outside of those, but the ones given during are meant to have more value). Typically, only one partner gives gifts while the other receives, but both partners could give gifts or they can alternate! (Or whatever works for them.)

Before one can even start courting though, there has to be a courtship proposal. Courtship proposals are simple. They shouldn't be too expensive or extravagant (one has to consider the possibility of being rejected). All Partner A needs to do is to create an intimate moment with Partner B, offer a proposal gift *(which shouldn't be too expensive or sentimental because, again, rejection), and ask if B will allow A to court them. If B accepts, then the courtship would then begin.

*a proposal gift could be something like a bouquet, a simple bracelet, necklace or other accessory, or even something like a favourite snack or an act of service (e.g. if B enjoys blueberries or blueberry pastries, A could pick or buy blueberries for them or buy them a blueberry pastry).

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This method of courtship is supposed to help strengthen or build a bond between the partners, so, as such, the dates--and gifts-- are supposed to grow more intimate over time. For example, the first date (major or not) could be something simple & casual, like a cafe date. And the first (major) gift could be something simple. It should be something that Partner A knows Partner B would at least appreciate. For example, pins based on media B might enjoy.

The third gift, for example, could be a scent token. Like a jacket, hoodie, cardigan, or scarf. Just something that carries A scent that B could wear or put in their den or nest (if they have). (I also think scent token gifts would be the best for courtship gift exchanges >.<)

The sixth gift and last should be something extremely sentimental. And it would be recommended for it to be handmade/homemade and/or a family heirloom (if some families have gifts typically given to partners, then it could be like that). Other gift examples could be handmade clothes or accessories, crafts or pieces of art, original music, poetry, etc It could even be something like a handmade ring, necklace or pendant, bracelets, etc. Bonus points if A were to make matching accessories for them and B.

The final date (where the aforementioned sixth gift would be received) should be intimate. Something like staying the night, a whole-day outing, maybe even a trip if all partners are willing and comfortable.

Acceptance of this sixth gift is supposed to be full acceptance of the courtship. Meaning that, yes, the courtship would be over, but is supposed to signifying the partners going into the 'next stage' (whatever that may be for the individuals) and having a long term relationship.

That's basically the gist of it. For more than two partners, I don't think it'd be much different. The only difference I can think of is probably the gift giving aspect. It would, of course, depend on what the individuals once. But it could be, for example, one partner gifting to the others, the others gifting to one partner, gift exchanges, etc.

By the way! Of course, the usual relationship involved in a courtship like this would be romantic. But I think any kind of relationship (platonic, tertiary, *quadrant, etc) can pursue this if all parties are comfortable and want it. *I think it's called quadrant attraction but I'm not sure/can't remember. But I'm referring to the umbrella term for things like ashen attraction.

that I don't have some forest or gully to go to and have my den.

No place for me and my Pack to meet up at; no place for my Mate and I to relax and nest together.

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but like

uhhh

(cringe warning bc it's me)

Going on cute little dates like cafe meet-ups and picnics or visiting libraries together

Scenting each other and/or giving each other scent tokens

Making nests and dens together

Cuddling up together

Coming up with stupid, silly nicknames for each other

Soft, gentle kisses