Hailwatcher is a bit inconsistent, I'd agree. I'll try to explain /nm for all 👇
If she is the birthing parent of Weedslik, and not trans mother, would it make sense for her to be scared to spar Rainhaze who is a she-cat, but overpower her mate and his apprentice at the same time, and then take a leader's life like she's just gone shopping? If Rainhaze is trans it makes sense, but the rest doesn't.
AFAB would get out of the battle with two persons, one of whose is a cis tom (maybe the other one is too, I don't remember), gravely injured, if alive. AFAB people are naturally weaker and have slower reaction and less brain power in general, which is frankly also a deciding factor in battle. Either she's trans, or they are both AFAB, and the other Weedsilk's parent is surrogate. That way Hailwatcher's and Eldergleam's chances against each other could even out.
Having a cis female defeat a cis male in battle seems a bit like one of those girl power moves and it's gone stale and smells terfy lately, I'm not accusing you and believe you are an ally but it might come off that way ❤
But then it would not make sense for her to act the way she acts. If she's AMAB she'd be capable of being more rational and not have those weird anger outbursts. Google origin of the world hysteria to understand why it's not a thing with non-uterus havers, even mentally ill ones.
"Mentally ill people can be like that" correlation not causation please lovelies
theres a lot to unpack here