My wife is helping me draft a letter to my MIL, explaining how her misgendering me hurts. It's a bit nerve-wracking, but probably better than trying to broach the subject in person. She probably doesn't actually realise how much it hurts, because we've been downplaying it for years now. This is probably going to end up with positive outcomes: either she starts making an effort, or I have an excuse to never be in a room with her again. (Family fallout? What's that lol) Fingers crossed, wish me luck!
Part 2: We've just drafted & written (by hand!) a letter to my MIL, explaining how much her misgendering hurts me. It barely counts as a confrontation, but I'm shaking, even though we haven't even delivered it. I just hope she values her relationship with me (and her daughter) more than her pride.
Hun I'm so proud of you for taking the steps to address this issue with your MIL, it has definitely been going on for far too long now and you deserve to treated as the person you truly are.
I know it's terrifying to do this, but you're asking the bare minimum respect from her. I'm wishing that everything works out for the best, but if not know that it's so important and courageous of you to stand up for yourself and I'm so proud of you love <3 <3