#downwithdignity

You could do that self-insert thing you were thinking about. Then I won't feel as lonely when I do it. (Milk, again.)

I’d like to, but I haven’t had any ideas for what I want to write happening.

And with self-insert, it’s also tricky to decide how much to be sort of Mary Sue idealistic, and how much to go more for self-effacing humor.

Mary Sue idealistic might take more courage than I have. There’s literally nothing scarier to write than yourself the way you hope you are. It’s awkwardly personal and optimistic the way writing smut is awkwardly personal and optimistic, but kind of moreso.

replied to your post

“I am going to be 24 in less than a month. This is not okay. I haven’t...”

Yeah you know, from this side of 30, it's difficult to find a lot of sympathy for you, but maybe a little friendly advice is in order: It doesn't get better. It only gets worse.

downwithdignity replied to your post “I am going to be 24 in less than a month. This is not okay. I haven’t...”

Forgot to tell you which one I am, and now I'm intrigued and wonder if you can guess.

I doubt that they could. Just because, in my experience, stuff like that doesn’t work. But I may be wrong. I hope so.

Thank you for the addendum! I was really doubtful if I should comment something to that effect, but didn’t want to give the impression to not take your experience seriously. Also, I’m a complete stranger, so it seemed horribly inappropriate …

You're welcome. Yeah, I added that pretty much right away after I posted it because... yes problem.

I tend to not mind when strangers comment on my personal life on here -- I mean, I do post about some really personal stuff on a public blog, so I kind of expect it. Admittedly, I'm likely to react badly if I feel like someone's not treating my experience as valid.

But honestly? If I post something that's likely to discourage people from taking care of themselves, or that's likely to be harmful in any way and I don't use sufficient warnings, please call me out on it. Even if it might hurt my feelings or I might not react well. I'm the one who made the decision to post in a public place, and I'm at least partially responsible for the consequences of that.

You don't even necessarily have to explain. You can just say "I'd feel more comfortable if you used this kind of trigger tag/put this kind of content under a cut/put this particular post under a cut" and I'll probably do it. Even if I know you, you have my permission to go on anon and do this. And even if I say, "no I'm not going to do the thing," then that gets said and people who are bothered by the thing can decide to unfollow me and feel validated that someone else had the same concern.

Yes, and I like it, and you can do nothing against that.