I dont know what to do in life. It feels like I've been abandoned yet I know that that is not true. Do you know a way to help me out with my doubts?
Well, youāre already one step of the way there: Youāve identified what is true.
But knowing whats true and having a belief are two different things. Humans are interestingĀ creatures. We can take input, such as being burned by a hot pan, and use that knowledge to not do so. In fact, thereās even a bit of an instinct to it to help us protect ourselves from that. This can also backfire on some of us: The same mechanism that protects us from harm can alsoĀ āprotectā us from social situations that can hurt us.
Have something beĀ ātrueā often enough and we can believe it to be true, especially when our well-trained minds are looking out for it. So sometimes these things can build beliefs about ourselves, for better or worse. But just because we believe it to be true doesnāt mean it is.
And it isnāt for you, is it? Youāve already found that out for yourself.
I donāt have a perfect answer. We still have differences.
But what worked for me was (1) Affirming what is true rather then what is not and (2) With the truth in mind, choose a new habit or action to take and carry it out.
I donāt know what that might be for you. That could be reaching out to friends. Maybe even talking to them about how you feel. You know better then I do what it is that creates your doubts and what it is you want to change.
