#don'tbescared

Writing hard? Yes, that is the truth and I want to share a little bit about that. There are many perceptions of what writing is supposed to look and like, and we always see in movies and read about in books that people can just sit and create masterpieces. I have always struggled to understand this thus, this is not the truth. 

Personally, writing has always been a chore for me, I’m not a bad writer but it’s not something that can just produce, it’s something that I have to put more than just a little effort into. Writing is something that take wide verity of things to produce. Yes, creative writing such as blogs don’t take too effort and is meant to be fun, but it still takes some type of thinking so that you produce something that people want to read. When writing really starts to get hard is when you have to write in an academic manner or at least this is the idea that scares me. As we have previously read there is supposed to be some kind of hierarchy behind our writing at thing, we think about to make our writing our own. Essentially it is important to follow this so-called set of rules and that is also what scares me because I always worry that I’m gonna miss some academic rule. Honestly, I wish writing was as easy as stepping into the kitchen and making pasta or Pad Thai, but it isn’t, and why you might ask? It is a challenge that my brain just can’t make easy. A big challenge that our brains struggle with is the idea of grammar and Andreea S. Calude dives into this in her Ted Talk Does grammar matter?         Grammar is the ghost in the room and probably what scares the most people away. It always leaves to question: What is right and what is wrong? Does this make sense? Is this coherent? So yes, the truth is writing is hard, writing is an art that really pushes your brain, but the truth is it can make you a stronger thinker and communicator. So even if you can’t fathom trying to go about this daunting task just remember it is an exercise for your brain. 

And consequently, as Kate Vieira Points out, it’s hard to feel things when you look at writing, but when you look at an image like this or at least when I do:

I have I lot more connection towards it and that is where the struggle comes in my writing. It’s the loss of connection to what I am doing and what understanding I am getting out of it. 

I feel like writing is somewhat scary because of this, but honestly you just have to embrace it and things in theory should be easier for you in the long run.

We need to figure out our approach to where we are headed, have a place and time for you. If we sit quiet for a moment thoughts pass through and we can see clearly with no distraction. We need to be quiet in the library so people around us can study. The more obstacles we remove from us we can see a path to take. If we have a place to be quiet it lets our minds figure out a plan of attack. When we are quiet for a moment it take us from our daily chaos to see what we need to create what we want.

There is so much going on it gets overwhelming. Quiet time is what calms us down when times get tough and the space needed to be able to see the whole picture. When we are too close to the situation we are not able to make the right choices. If we take time out to be quiet this makes room for ideas to pass through to make better decisions and see more options unfold. If we are scared to be quiet we miss opportunities we can’t see amidst the fog.

Find a place,

Take time,

The missing link.

Who we allow into our inner circle exposing our feelings, trust, and beliefs with, intimacy will bond the relationship. Intimacy is a tool to build trust in ourselves to achieve what we want for our lives. We should value intimacy, not as a weakness, but as a mighty strength that sustains our perseverance. When we bond with another, the intimacy experienced thrusts us forward allowing the joy and peace we seek.

We become vulnerable when we open up to be intimate with another and  guarded with our emotions. The problem is when intimacy isn’t felt equally, frustration builds and one of us thinks we need to do more. Intimacy must be shared to be received and vitally important to experience love. The “lack” of intimacy shows our weaknesses and keeps us from building lasting relationships.

Allow ourselves to be vulnerable,

Be kind,

Embrace another.

I feel this is something that should be said more often. 

Emotions creeping in,

A dull, so painful arrow

They were hunted down by sorrow

 Tears falling down,

As a flick of the torch light ignited

We knew by now we’ll never be united.

 Pains' going here,

How we wish it’ll never come near

But now, I knew that pain was already here

 Emotions are sucked into a void;

A black hole of devoid of hope

A tunnel of despair where no light

- Ti vedo stanco amico! Che hai fatto?

- Lascia stare, sono rimasto sveglio tutta la notte!

- Che hai combinato?

- Alla fine le ho scritto su whatsapp, quello che le dovevo dire!

- E cosa?

- le ho scritto "Ti amo" e non ha risposto!

- Beh, era tardi, non avrà letto!

DANIEL JOHNSTON