the current discourse round is so fucking triggering, side complaint. "some women are pedophiles and can't exempt themselves from the accusation" is an insane sentence to drop as a like, winning move (presumably). i can have 0 tolerance understanding and empathy for women who are attracted to children and not working on remedying or fixing that¹ and still campaign for their human rights. i literally already have that feminist framework for cisfem pedophiles and misogynistic violence, obviously i can extend it to transfem and transmisogynistic incidence........
¹ as with women who need to leave abusive rls but have kids, i'm well aware that i personally will never be a safe landing pad for women who have an attraction to children for whatever reason² and need patient understanding longterm support to untangle the why and how. the women who can do that work i have a lot of respect for bc i know its not easy (by virtue of how hard it is for me if nothing else #myempathylack) but ohhh my god the current push for like. the idea that it says nothing about your values or safety if your desired handling of this is to be upfront about it without anyone being able to decide to end contact with you for their own sake + clearly seeking no solution or management strategies + existing peacefully in spaces that aren't adult-only without oversight or criticism? mm. no.
² i'm sorry i just disbelieve that anyone who isn't a pedophile for power and abuse purposes is *actually* atttracted to children. either you're attracted to the physical features (which idc about bc many adults can have them), or you're incapable of being attracted to adults (frequently for abuse victim reasons, i know ppl on my old person DID circuits who struggle with either a) seeing physical bodies that match the one that abused them or b) seeing their own body as adult now & working on accepting that they're no longer feeling same-age-appropriate attraction bc theyve grown older) or you're attracted to mental features (in which case you need to sort out why and then hold yourself to the same standards as any excessive sadist and remove the capacity for temptation from your life) and all of these things are fair reasons for people to not be comfortable around you and to end your contact if you tell them.
honestly i lost track of what i was saying here #myblog #mystreamofconciousness but i do think what it boils down to is that i personally think its irresponsible and stupid to not keep adult-only stuff in adult-only communities and that while kids can and do lie (and im not advocating for passport submissions or witch hunts), way more people need to get it together and embrace locked accounts and private forums. "oh how will people know we exist" well right now half of the site knows ageplay exists because kink blogs keep appearing in their notes explicitly against their dni so the current method is already not fucking working
