#dl men

however this guy's construction of his cishet-ness is weirdly malleable so he'd just crossdress & call it a day cause he's being the girl (this has no baring on his gender or sexuality, he's already examined himself & decided no he's a purely cishet man who will occasionally crossdress for fun & to have sex with men that won't just turn him off) (Or sometimes I would crossdress also)

but then I transitioned into a woman

so. he can't crossdress to make it straight -> accidental forcemasc #1

But he liked doing that and I liked doing that so now I do drag & he crossdresses -> accidental forcemasc #2

this guy is the queerest cishet man I've ever encountered, & he doesn't Act Gay but he's so out of the norm in other ways that we've elected him as honorary queer. I don't understand what his mental categories of man vs woman are because as far as I can tell there are no rules to either one from him, & it's genuinely delightful

oh thats fun ironically im watching a video on yt rn about dl grindr stories rn lol

i think a LOT of "cishet" men love to crossdress and be with trans women and there are some ways in which that can turn kinda toxic and unfortunate when they treat us as like kinda disposable

but there are some ways in which its really interesting and adds to the idea that gender and sexuality really are just so much more fluid and flexible than how society teaches people