#disabled ranting

We act normal until we are so overstimulated and hot we beg to take off our clothes, we seem normal until we are having a tantrum in public because we weren't allowed to do something we wanted. we seem normal until we can't do simple tasks properly like opening umbrellas, buttons clothes, opening up containers, using public transportation. We seem normal until we are saying something inappropriate at the wrong time, or talking to loud, or making annoying noises.

We are told we are just slow, stupid, quirky, weird, childish.

.....yes, a woman with a bike needed our seats more than myself with my cane and my good friend with his bariatric crutches with the arm cuffs. You know, the ones that go on your arms and are super awkward, not to mention clearly meant for long-term use. She suggested we sit in the other disability seats, where his crutches would have been in the walkway and super awkward not only for him but everyone else.

To make it worse, a guy beside us offered to put her bike up on the rack for her. She said no, the handlebars were too big, she had tried. He said he’d had the same bike, he knew the trick- no, no, she had TRIED already. And then she accuses him of stealing a tire from her bike, since it’s the same as one she had stolen....

...........off a completely different brand of bike that wouldn’t use a tire like that, it physically could not do so.

Then she got into a conversation with an older white man and couldn’t keep her story straight. My favorite line? If she had only a little food, and someone else was hungry, she’d share it, she wanted people not to suffer!

Lady, it would have meant more if you hadn’t told two obviously disabled people that you needed their spot more because you had a bike and couldn’t be bothered to learn something new from someone trying to help you.

Something that has happened to us multiple times is that we've had people ask "why do you draw diverse people?" Or they say "wow you are so brave for drawing such diverse things!" (We find both comments equal btw)

Its hard to explain how much those things make us uncomfortable. It's not "diverse" it's just the world. If we drew a white person we wouldn't be patted on the back for being "so diverse" yet white people only make up 17% of the world. We wouldn't be told that we are brave for drawing a red head even though they only make up 1% of the population.

We don't get the difference. 16% of people are disabled, that's just 1% less than white people.

Why should we be congratulated for something as small as drawing someone that's colored, or an afab individual with facial hair, or someone with facial paralysis, or someone of a different culture. Because humans aren't all the same. We just draw the world as we see it.

Sorry for the long ass rant

Alot of wheelchair users are ambulatory!

The joke perpetuates the harmful stereotype that if you are in a wheelchair you are a paraplegic which bars off so many people who do need wheelchairs but aren't paraplegic from getting them

Also, it implies disabled people cannot speak up for themselves.

It makes us the butt of the joke, it makes our suffering "funny"

The "that sounds so hard!" Isn't helping

What we want is your understanding

How many times do we have to explained to someone our disabilities and our limitations only for them to turn around and forget it and except us to act like an abled bodies person. How many times are we to be belittled for not being able to do basic fucking tasks even when we explain they are hard for us due to limitations. How many times do we have to tell someone to slow down in walking so we can catch up because we can't walk properly?

Like... alot of us are neutral on it

On the anti Endo side that makes us no better then Endo supporters, we are encouraging their behavior

On the pro Endo side we aren't standing up for others.